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What Are the Most Important Questions to Ask Someone You Meet?

“Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by this some have entertained angels without knowing it.” – Hebrews 13:2

We hope that you are wisely reading other member profile descriptions and imagining what it might be like to have a conversation with them. And by now you may already be having some good conversations with other members of our site.  Remember: don’t fall into the trap of only looking at pictures and thinking from your gut.  It’s important to consider the values and lifestyle choices of someone first and foremost.  Then, you should have a solid conversation to talk about genuine topics and see whether you are able to communicate well, and to learn about each other.  In case you would like some ideas what to cover in these conversations, here are some important topics to address.

 It’s nice to start with a few simple things, like how are you today and so on.  But then do not be shy.  Ask many important questions (preferably each one several times in different ways) because this is the best way to learn whether the person you are about to meet is the right person for you.

You should ask these important questions when you chat on webcam (if you are able to chat on webcam).  Then later when you meet in person, you should ask them again.  Maybe you will find that he or she is the angel you’ve been waiting to meet for so many years.  Or maybe an angel, but just not meant for you.  Be respectful, but be comprehensive.

Here are important questions we recommend you ask as soon as possible.

  1. What is your occupation?

  2. What can you do well?

  3. What is the one thing about yourself that you would like me to know?

  4. Have you had a long-term relationship? Why did it end?

  5. What do you think is the most important value in a relationship?

  6. Have you been married before?

  7. Do you have any children?  How do you feel about children?

  8. If you are married, who would you honor first: your spouse or your friends or your parents or your children (if applicable)?

  9. Is God important to you?  What is your relationship with God like?

  10. Tell me about a biblical story you like.

  11. Describe your perfect date.

  12. What are the things you do for fun?

  13. What foods do you like to cook or eat?

  14. Do you prefer living in a city, town, or farm?

  15. Where do you see yourself in 5 years time?

  16. Do you have any bad habits?

  17. Are you a morning or night person?

  18. What do you look for in a friend or spouse?

  19. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would that be?

  20. What makes you laugh or cry?

  21. What’s your biggest frustration?

  22. How much effort would you dedicate to learning your future spouse’s language?

  23. What are your fears?

  24. What is your most favorite childhood memory?

  25. Would you like to spend some more time getting to know each other?

Feel free to add your suggested questions/topics as comments below, as well.

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  1. Please add to #8 “or you children”. I have found this to be a problem with some women with children.


    Comment by Mark Molinari — June 27, 2012 @ 11:08 am

  2. What does it mean to you, when you say you will be good to your man. Other than cooking and cleaning?

    You and your man agree that both of you have to work together on something in your household. Your man is not doing his part, one day. How do you handle it?

    Who should compromise in a relationship with you?

    Your man goes out of his way, does something nice. what is your reaction?

    Comment by Mikal — June 27, 2012 @ 6:34 pm

  3. Great suggestions Mark and Mikal.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — June 27, 2012 @ 6:53 pm

  4. Would you prefer in a relationship long observation &/or short engagement?

    Comment by Judith — June 28, 2012 @ 1:36 am

  5. Do you know that there is no divorce in the Philippines.Only single and persons of deceased spouses can get married

    Comment by David Morphett — June 28, 2012 @ 9:57 pm

  6. why do you like a christian partner in life can you expalian.?

    Comment by nataña poblete — June 30, 2012 @ 10:29 am

  7. (reply to David Morphett, comment #5) The influence of the Catholic Church here in the Philippines causes the government to simply not use the word divorce.

    They do have “annulment” which is most palatable to the church hierarchy. If a person completes the annulment process, they can, in fact, marry again.

    Comment by David Hall — July 1, 2012 @ 4:40 am

  8. (additional information to david question #5)
    Yes they can marry again in the Court by a judge not in the church.

    Comment by sheedenz nacorda — July 10, 2012 @ 6:58 am

  9. @sheedenz “Yes they can marry again in the Court by a judge not in the church.”

    I suppose that depends on what you mean by “church”. Perhaps Catholic church? What about other denomination churches?

    Comment by a — September 24, 2012 @ 11:35 am

  10. If we will think of it in an online dating site, The Most Important Question to be asked ASAP (if you haven’t included it on your profile description) , before asking the list of questions above is “Do you believe on the Golden Rule, Do not do unto others what you do not want others to do unto you?”.
    Why? because this definitely serves as a reminder or a warning to the person you’re talking to… that if you want me to be honest to you, be honest to me as well so Treat me exactly the way you want me to treat you, right?

    Comment by Anonymous — November 22, 2012 @ 4:40 pm

  11. Thank you for the advice,God bless you all.I am a christian and I fear Je-ho-vah God. And Christian filipina, you are family to me.So to my side I HATE DIVORCE.That why I always pray to God to give me a right person to be my wife.

    Comment by Ziko Ndhlovu — December 3, 2012 @ 9:26 am

  12. Thank you lord,for finding this site.i have never meet my match yet,but I do hope to find one.perfection is not my aim.sweet words like honey,cannot lure me.truthfulness and good sense of humor,A christian oriented person is what I am looking for.I hate lies,so if you think I am not your not lure me with sweet kind words.being straight forward is a good christian identity..I am hoping to meet my match here in christian filipina.

    Comment by Imelda — December 5, 2012 @ 3:37 am

  13. Nice article and those are all good questions. What I’ve noticed about Filipinas is that many of them are just too desperate to get married. It’s just feeling I get.

    It also seems that very few of them have any concept of the meaning of life except to get married and have babies. I find that very boring.

    They look fine in some of their pictures but, really, that subservience just gets old after awhile. I’ve offered the advice to some of them that I’ve met that they ought to start a blog and do some other stuff to indicate that they already have a real ‘live’ but it goes ‘over their head’.

    I happen to live in Manila and I notice too that it’s really hard to develop any kind of relationship with a girl in Manila (unless you’ve got a lot of money) because of the size of the city, transportation problems and the fact that very often these girls on these sites have other obligations that I/we (the guys) often don’t even know about.

    For example, I’ve corresponded with several girls over on another big Filipina dating site….just on the interface on their site.

    I’ve always been nice and friendly but I get the impression that the girls don’t want to be a friend FIRST. It’s starting to really turn my stomach when I what they write about ‘want to find someone who will love me as I am’ and all that other kind of emotional crap.

    It’s just so immature but I do understand that some of them don’t have a computer at home and/or don’t have the money to afford an internet connection all the time. Regardless, that makes it doubly hard to be certain of their motives.

    I do know one girl who’s nice though but, again, for some reason she seems to kinda sometimes be around and listening and then at other times she’s not. I do know for a fact that she’s very solidly ‘in the market’ and I certainly don’t begrudge her that right.


    Comment by art — December 9, 2012 @ 8:30 pm

  14. Question…. How do you feel about sex?.. is sex important to you in’a relationship???

    Comment by Rudy — December 10, 2012 @ 3:48 pm

  15. Do you by any chance have any positive or negative comments about a girl from Davao City, named Marife Cuasito? I am feeling infatuated with her looks, her brain capacity, her eloquence,
    and her sense of family values.
    I would appreciate any help in this matter.

    Comment by carlos — January 6, 2013 @ 9:29 pm

  16. Hi Carlos, the name does not ring a bell. But our opinion is that if you are feeling the way you describe, you may be taking things too quickly. The best idea is to plan a trip to meet her and some other people in person as friends first during your first week in the Philippines. After that, you’ll know whether the person you are thinking of in your mind is really the one in person.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — January 6, 2013 @ 11:05 pm

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