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Top Mistakes in Filipina Dating

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Getting Excited for the Wrong Reasons Isn’t Wise in the Long Run

Since before we met even, we’ve been observing men and women who come from different countries meet, and in many cases get married.  We met and are happily married.  We’ve seen and heard a lot of stories, and based on it, we’ve come up with a list of top mistakes in dating Filipinas.  Before we get into this list, we want to be clear that when we say we are an online dating site, we mean that we are a site where people can meet to become friends first.  We do not believe in premarital or extramarital sex, don’t encourage it, and don’t recommend it. We do believe in commitment, marriage, and family, and when the right person is there, we encourage it.   Some people who have visited other sites with many Filipina members at times get confused and think that online dating must be immoral because we encourage casual sex (we certainly don’t).  Maybe other people or other sites have different definitions of online dating.  We encourage you to find a site where the owners and other members share your basic assumptions about this.

Dishonesty - We believe that for two people to join to form something greater, that honesty is important, and dishonesty is a dangerous poison.  We strongly encourage our members that when they are corresponding or chatting, take the time to make sure what you are saying is true.  Even if you are afraid you might disappoint someone else, it’s far better to be honest from the beginning, rather than start a life based on a lie.  We believe that honesty is the way to develop trust and love, and that dishonesty interferes with our ability to trust and love one another.  If what you are looking for is power, sex, money, or status, I’m sorry but that’s not compatible with the atmosphere we try to nourish here.  We encourage those who seek to fulfill the guidance to love one another, and who believe that requires honesty, to take the time to join our site and meet fellow believers.

Obsession With Appearances -

Be careful of profiles that have pictures posted which appear to be models.  Sometimes scammers will borrow photos of actual models from the internet and use them on their profiles. Even if the pictures are of the actual member, a photo which suggests vanity isn't a good sign.

Be careful of profiles that have pictures posted which appear to be models. Sometimes scammers will borrow photos of actual models from the internet and use them on their profiles. Even if the pictures are of the actual member, a photo which suggests vanity isn’t a good sign.

We recommend that our members focus more on profile text, and messages, rather than photographs.  First of all, this is because as much as we would like to be able to guarantee that a member’s photos are of the member, we can’t guarantee that, and we know for a fact that some members post pictures of other people.  But most of our members who have posted photos are posting photos of themselves.  Yet we still recommend that our members do not pay the photos much attention.  One of the less-appreciated aspects of human relations is that single people might look less attractive because they feel loney; but later in the company of a caring partner, they may blossom through confidence to be more attractive in the eyes of anyone who was paying attention.  On this same topic, about once a week, we get an email from one of our gentleman who is inquiring about a lady from our site, and when we look at the lady’s profile, we see a picture that looks like it could be from an advertisement for bikinis, full of curves or cleavage.  (We delete the pictures immediately.)  We believe that these kinds of pictures are not of ladies who are mature enough to have healthy relations of any kind with anyone.  We recommend you avoid them.  Unless you are a man who is obsessed with his own appearances, who cares more about his looks than his actions, then you will have a values conflict with a lady who is obsessed with her appearance.  It’s important to think about what your values are, and to find people who have compatible values.  This is much more important than trying to meet people who remind us of advertising models.

Getting Too Excited About Easy, Outgoing Ladies - It’s natural that we can get excited if we write a note and the recipient responds very quickly.  But is that actually a good sign?  More likely, if you get a response right away, you’re dealing with a professional scammer who is spending all day at the computer.  It’s actually a much better sign if you have to wait a day or two for a response.  Likewise, if you find yourself very excited because someone is very outgoing, forward, and not shy, not humble, you might want to take things a bit more slowly.  Many of our finest ladies are conservative and/or shy.  They may not want to post photos of themselves, they may not have any experience with meeting men in a context like this, and might be shy and more innocent.  This doesn’t mean they are not worth getting to know, however.  But it does mean you might need to make more of an effort.  Think about it.  The ladies who are very upfront, outgoing, aggressive even, might be easy;but do you think they will be faithful, humble, obedient?  We recommend that our members should make a special effort to write to especially those members who don’t have pictures and who might have short descriptions.  It only takes a few moments to write a short message, and you never know what beautiful gem you might find hidden beneath modesty.

Sending Money - We believe that a person who is not responsible for his or her own financial situation isn’t ready to look for a partner.    You may have even been tricked by someone who isn’t the one in the pictures, who may not even have the name or even gender or ethnicity of the one you believe you’re talking to.  We strongly discourage our members from sending money to anyone they meet online who they have not yet met.  In fact, it’s against our terms of service to request another member send money.  Please report any member who does this, whether it’s in a private message in our site, in our chat, or in a message or chat on another service.  We suspend these members immediately, as they have nothing to offer our membership.  If any member asks you to send money, whether it’s for internet fees, clothes, food, medicine, cell phone, debt, tuition, or anything else, just say no —  forward the message to us, forget about that person, and move on.  We have thousands upon thousands of quality members, and there’s no use wasting one more minute of your time if you’ve found that one of your chat mates behaves in this way.  There is no excuse for it.  If you have any questions, please email or call us.

Failing to Verify Basic Identity And Other Web-Chat Mistakes- We offer a webcam chat service for our upgraded members.  Other services, like yahoo and skype and gmail, also offer chat services that allow you to see another person on webcam.  (We believe ours is the best option for our members, because when you chat using our service, you do not need to share your messenger address with others, and you are protected by our terms of service.  If you give out your yahoo or skype id, you may find that it can be sent from person to person, and you may receive everything from solicitations for paid cam sex to bank card fraud.  We encourage you to use our site for your messages and chats, because other members will be held accountable for what they say to you and they will be suspended if they break our terms of service.  If someone asks you to leave our site for whatever reason to go to another chat service, and then solicits money there, simply report the member, and we will suspend them from our site.  We have a zero tolerance policy for this.)  In any case, you should always be sure to chat with any new contact using some form of webcam chat.  You should verify that they are the person from the pictures, and you should verify that they are the one typing.  Before I met my wife, I personally had an experience where I thought I was chatting with a person online, but was not careful, and then when I actually met the person, it became clear that she hadn’t been typing at all – she didn’t know how to type or even read or speak English – and that one of her friends had been typing while she sat at the webcam.  This stuff happens, and you need to insist that you see the hands of the person you are typing with at least once, to see that they are typing.  While you are chatting, you should also pay careful attention — is your chat mate also trying to chat with other people at the same time?  If so, forget about her, and find someone who gives you the attention you deserve.

Trying to Impress the Parents / Failing to Be Romantic / Taking it Too Fast In Person – While it’s definitely true that family ties are close in the Philippines, and that the opinions of family members are important, if you are chatting with a lady, or meet her in person, remember to be romantic with her!  Bring her a flower, or a card, tell her she is beautiful, listen to her and talk to her, wink at her.   In general, don’t be the one to bring up talking with anyone in her family about a developing affection.  If she brings that up, ok, but you should talk about your affection with her, not them, and allow it to develop by talking with her about it or just spending time with her.  Most likely she’ll always bring along someone from her family when you meet anyway.  You can talk with the others, but remember that she’s your focus.  If you’re still just meeting for the first or second time, you don’t have to be overly romantic.  Just one flower and one nice comment is enough.  More can be overwhelming.  Just take it easy.  Meet for a short meal, and then go your own separate ways, and later arrange for another meeting a few days later.  When you first meet in person after meeting online, it will take some time to adjust.  It’s like starting all over, so take it from the top.  Ask important questions, but ask them casually, questions about her education, family history, family obligations, experience with travel.  Don’t ask anything that might be too embarrassing in front of her friends or family.

Falling In Love Online Without Meeting In Person - We recommend to our members who are serious to meet someone in the Philippines, that they plan a trip.  Perhaps a two-week trip three months away.   Then try to meet five to ten people online as friends who you’d like to meet in person.  When you meet them in person on your trip, you can see whether what you had inferred or been told was correct, and see what feels comfortable.  You can even take notes; there’s nothing wrong with being careful and disciplined at such an important time.  A respectable Filipina would never object to you being careful and deliberate.   Don’t rush into passion right away.  Try to make sure you have a match of values first.  Is it more important to live for the present, or plan for the future?  Children?  What church?  Do you like gardening, or prefer spending time at the computer or in the library?  Riding Harleys, scooters, public transportation, new BMWs, or ratty old cars?  Of course many people can embrace new aspects of life when they meet new people, but make sure there is also enough foundation of commonality.  We have had members who have met online and then not met any other members, just stuck with the first person they’ve met, and it’s turned out well for them.  If this is God’s plan, then we can’t object.  But we nevertheless think God would still approve of a couple that is meant to be, even if both parties are careful and deliberate and cautious, taking it one step at a time.

Trying To Be Too Cheap - Let’s face it, there are a lot of expenses that are involved in relationships.  Transportation, potential visa costs, travel expenses, time off, relocation expenses.  If it’s between continents, it’s thousands and thousands of dollars, plus months or even years of time.  We have members who try to use their free-level membership as long as possible, or who even try to violate our terms of service and exchange contact information while still free members.  Friends!  Twenty dollars, or fifty, or even a hundred dollars, that you dedicate to membership in a quality website like ours with attentive customer service and thousands of quality members is worth every penny.  So go ahead and upgrade to one of our top membership levels; there’s no need to delay to save a few dollars.  The same thing goes for your first time to meet in person.  Don’t worry if you’re buying lunch for three or four people.  You don’t need to go to an expensive place, and you can set a clear budget – 300 peso to 1000 peso depending on the number of people attending and your lifestyle – but it’s ok to spend something to enjoy the company and the service.

If you have any other tips of “top mistakes” you have heard about, feel free to write to us, or add them as comments so that others can benefit from your experience.

Peter and Jen

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  1. What do you think is a good age separation for marriage right now im 51 years and im looking at 37 to 44 year old ladies.

    Comment by mark johnson — February 17, 2010 @ 12:56 pm

  2. Hi Mark, That’s a great question. We think that age normally shouldn’t be a primary factor, so we recommend to you being open to a broader age range. It is possible to meet a mature 22-year-old, and also possible to meet an immature 55-year-old. You should certainly think about children if that’s important to you, and you should certainly think about maturity, and you should certainly think about common values like faith, spending habits, and the importance of education. You don’t necessarily have to match perfectly, but you do need to be able to respect each other. Chemistry will always be there given time and shared experience, no matter the age or what other people might think is a measure of beauty. Jen and Peter

    Comment by Christian Filipina — February 17, 2010 @ 1:33 pm


    Comment by charles scott — February 18, 2010 @ 3:59 pm

  4. thanks guys for the thoughtful comments which i really appreciated :)

    Comment by phillip — February 18, 2010 @ 5:55 pm

  5. Hi Charles, I happen to believe that Filipinas are about like many others who are ordinarily not fixated about skin color. It’s true that some Filipinas are obsessed with skin color, just as are some people everywhere in the world, but most are not. Everyone has their quirks. But if you follow our suggestions, write to many ladies just to start the conversations, plan a trip during which you can meet between three and ten of those ladies (depending on how much time you have), then in person you’ll be able to sense which of those is the one that best matches your values and personality. Just as I suggested to another poster above asking about age, it’s simply not the first thing that Filipinas are going to think about, and I encourage you not to focus on it too much either.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — February 18, 2010 @ 7:09 pm

  6. i like to meet a man who is 45-65 y. o. I am glad to have this site. More power.

    Comment by kris — February 19, 2010 @ 3:32 pm

  7. Hi, I would like to know how much I need to expect to pay for all of my expenses of flight, marring her, and applying for the vista to get her green card and move to the USA as my wife, when I do meet my soul mate? This is important for me to know since I have never done this before. Thank you. I think you are right in all your answers that I have read. Age is not as important as character. I have been scammed a lot on other date sites and I’m tired of it. I know it is impossible to get rid of all of them, but learning how to read them when they or trying to scam you is a skill that I have learned over the years. Anyway, thank you for your information on this web site as it is helpful.

    Comment by Larry — February 25, 2010 @ 8:35 pm

  8. Hi Larry,

    Thanks for your supportive comments and the suggestion for further information. What do you think would be more helpful, several different examples, or a more generic suggested budget?

    Peter and Jen

    Comment by Christian Filipina — February 25, 2010 @ 9:00 pm

  9. hi,

    I’ve been on dating sites for many years now but i still couldn’t or haven’t meet the person for me. I really hope they’re not particular on age coz i really age out of this dating sites. I’m now 48.

    Comment by CL — March 6, 2010 @ 10:32 am

  10. I have enjoyed your advise on dating a Filipina or what could apply for dating in most environments. I’m a black guy who has a tremendous respect for everything thing Filipino and especially, Filipinas. I live in Toronto Canada. I’m here looking and hopefully I find my match.

    Comment by Francis — March 7, 2010 @ 11:05 am

  11. Hi Francis,

    We appreciate your kind words. There’s a lot in the Filipino culture to be respected, and it’s been the experience of many Filipina-Foreigner couples that they compliment each other well. Especially when you take your time and are careful, because there are some ladies who sneak past our filters and try to take advantage of your trust and good will. So take your time, do not send money to anyone you haven’t met in person (report anyone who asks to us immediately), and you will find your match.


    Comment by Christian Filipina — March 7, 2010 @ 11:22 am

  12. Hi Good day to all of you.

    I’ve read what you have plotted in your lines here, and i absolutely agree to all of your suggestions, as well as your comments.

    I may have to write down here my very disgusting experience with a man coming from London, who i believed was too honest and sincere. It’s just too late before i opened up my eyes that i became nothing but a victim of a scam and fraud and used me to take his pleasure with women from Asian out of my own money. While some foreigners may generalize Filipina women as “easy to get” and looking for nothing but a financial setback, the other side of the pasture are those honest, highly educated, dignified women out there, trying their luck to venture and meet qualified man that suits their dreams.

    I hope this would not happened again, as there is a great difference when you look up at the side of trust, even when you haven’t met the person and the benefits of the doubt, on the other side. Women should watch out for the benchmarks along the way as a sign of endangering their path to nowhere.

    I guess i may have to be a member here and once again knock the door of opportunity to meet someone out there with a blessed understanding of what a real relationship should be. . .

    Many thanks and God Bless!

    eT Harry

    Comment by eT hARRY — March 11, 2010 @ 8:24 pm

  13. Hi ET,

    I appreciate your positive comments and also sharing your experience. We had written this page mostly with men in mind, but we should also write top mistakes in dating foreigners with women in mind.

    It sounds like you had met someone from another site from some of your comments. Sorry to hear of the experience. Of course you are welcome to join our site and maybe someone of quality will recognize what you have to offer.


    Comment by Christian Filipina — March 11, 2010 @ 9:37 pm

  14. I have lived off and on in the Philippines for over 30 years and I can tell you frankly that not everyone who looks good, will be good for you. I married a Filipina who had all the attributes of a lovely, compassionate and loyal lifemate. Fast forward 16 years later, after sending her to college and she getting her citizenship, well, she started an affair with a personal injury lawyer, who happened to do her divorce also, and now I’ve moved on and so has she. My only regret was the many years wasted on a Filipina with an agenda. So, fellows, understand the agenda that your Filipina has before you commit.

    Comment by Nerdizen — March 29, 2010 @ 3:18 pm

  15. Hi,
    Thanks for sharing your comments. Yes, there are many stories that illustrate the importance of taking the development of new relations slowly. It might be more expensive and challenging in the short-run, but in the long-run the turtle can beat the hare. So we agree: take your time to get to know each other (this goes both ways), and if you see warning signs, talk to your friends or write to us about them, rather than only relying on wishful thinking that those issues might go away on their own.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — March 29, 2010 @ 3:33 pm

  16. I am new here and really looking for someone who is real not only looking for sex cos not all filipina are cheap so please give one person that i can be with and hope this dating site is good for me cos i do really i do really love it here and hope i can find the right one on here in this christianfilipina

    Comment by KRISTINE — April 2, 2010 @ 3:41 pm

  17. I think the important thing with pictures is to verify through exchanging many pictures and chatting through webcam. It is one way to make up for not being able to see someone in person immediately.

    Comment by Marry a Filipina Blog — April 10, 2010 @ 10:03 pm

  18. to those people whose your difficulties was so so high,dont ever think it was not all personality looks only at outward but it my be settle by getting to know each othere.

    Comment by ofeliatapas — April 15, 2010 @ 6:27 pm

  19. hi…do can have really meet here a good one guy…?… wishing to have a love one, at my age,,, want 45 up.. but not near die!!!

    Comment by niela — April 18, 2010 @ 5:39 am

  20. I really am beginning to love this site…
    And I do hope to meet my would-be life companion here…
    More power, and God bless.

    Comment by Angelina Zuend — April 30, 2010 @ 3:19 am

  21. i would like to meet my partner n life thrue your web site

    Comment by jobelyn — December 23, 2010 @ 9:21 pm

  22. I am a Filipina,
    most women are married to a foreigner,becoz they believe that marrying a foreigner could take them out of poverty.that’s the reason why I really don’t want to get married in a foreigner becoz you know already what the neighborhood would think about you..

    Comment by spy.. — July 10, 2012 @ 7:14 pm

  23. hi i am new here this site, and i wish u find me for a good guy in ur site,, i know other site alot of scammer so i hope here i find th rite person,,,am 37 and am looking for my partner and long term relationship,,,so i want older than me,,37-55 thanks and god bles to all who are looking thier partner,, u luck…

    Comment by thelma — July 11, 2012 @ 9:05 am

  24. Hi Thelma, Welcome to our site. I’m sure you’ll meet many wonderful people here. Remember to login every few days to send messages to members.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — July 11, 2012 @ 11:17 am

  25. Ur speaking about age, to me, age is just a number. If A person IS 15 TO 20, Maybe up to 40 yrs younger, no problem. If they both love each other, more power to them! If they get along, again, More power to them! IF both of them can get along w/each other’s in-laws, More power to them!

    If they accept each other’s faults, inadequicies, no matter what they are, Perfect, and/or, inprefect, More power to them!

    Now, in reference to “possible” fake pix, I’m in full agreement w/the infofrmation supplied here, especially if it should promote what is called here, in the United States, as indentified as “IDENTITY THEFT,” which, is a very common crime, heree in the USA, but stealing a person’s information via computer, that is able tobe hacked into for law enforcement files, bank computers drivers licenses, ect. hackers can easily hack into them and, can find out anything with computers and find information about annyone that they want to, providing that have the right info that has been provided to them by subscribers(Credit Card #’s, addresses, phone numbers-cell or home, ect.).

    I’m hoping that your subscribers will be reading this.

    Especially, since there’s a super virus go’n around. Clean Ur har drives after 2 hours of using ur computers! Make sure that U have 0 bytes after U’ve [cleaned] several times.

    Comment by Dwight — July 11, 2012 @ 11:37 am

  26. Some very good points in this helpful article!

    But I think that the writer of this article is unknowingly sharing some of his/her biases without being aware of it:
    1. Obedience – is this to suggest that the woman must be obedient to her husband? If so, there are plenty of Christians who disagree with this concept, not because it is different from scripture, but because it’s not necessarily conducive good relationships. Obedience suggests that someone obey another person without thought, but I would suggest that it’s much better to treat a relationship as a partnership with communication, negotiation and agreement over any given event as core to it all. As well, this approach opens the heart for more love. Better to be connected than dumbly obeying because that is supposedly the thing to do.
    2. Why does the writer(s) suggest that winking, or buying a flower or whatever on the 2nd date, ok. Why is the writer providing somewhat rigid rules here for conduct. Much better to be genuine and do what the heart feels urged to do with the person in the relationship. Now if the writers aren’t native English speakers, then perhaps it better to consult with someone who is to get the English right. But if a native speaker, then of course any hard and fast rule here is unnecessarily binding and inflexible. Please be careful what you write here, because many people may take your suggestions literally and lose a new relationship because they are following your suggestions to the letter.

    Some contributors here are also right on with their experienced comments. Beware of motives of many if not most filipinas who are marrying an older foreigner. If the man keeps his attention on the connection between he and she, then it’s quite possible that love will be strong in the relationship, but the filipina above who says she doesn’t want a westerner only to save her from poverty is showing the kind of honesty that’s commendable.

    Please be aware that the filipino culture is filled with soft moral values. In fact, some religions can hardly be called christian here because immorality, dishonesty and unethical behavior is standard practice. Filipinas are constrained by culture and religion to be giving, but the motivations for their wonderfully attentive actions must to accounted for. Most pinay receive community and family status to have a white man in their embrace, but often later when the relationship has aged, she will relax that attentiveness, and if circumstances unfold in a bad way, the man can end up losing all his investment, emotional and financial, to his wife and her family. Many a western man has been stripped of all his life savings as a result of not focussing on the quality of their connection. The signs of infidelity, be it relational, financial or sexual, are there to see, if we want to see. Please focus and work on the heart connection, men, and then your lives with these dear little women may be rich.

    Comment by Bruce — July 11, 2012 @ 5:51 pm

  27. Hi!,.i am happy upon reading Top Mistakes about Dating which is really true about dishonesty that i think most foreign like to have sexual experience first to the filipina and then just leave them and i would like to suggest bec.i am a member in this site and i am single i like to meet single men and not a divorce.Thank you,more power to your site and God Bless!!,..

    Comment by Jean Vi — August 29, 2012 @ 3:06 am

  28. Hi! I just want to grab this opportunity to send a message to give my thanks because of some advices Ive read really learned a lot I really appreciate for sharing Top Mistakes about dating .Ive been through other site just to find and wishing someday I could meet my soulmate but unluckily met some rude people and I was so disappointed because when we begin to chat they only wanted young women or women with good job and even they only like pleasure in cam, I am so happy when I saw this site Christian Filipina how I wish I could find someone, a man knows how to respect a woman that has a good heart and it is true honesty is the best.Thank you so much God bless more power.

    Comment by EVA — December 11, 2012 @ 2:00 pm

  29. HI. I just want to say that I enjoyed all the comments. I’m 62 yrs. of age and had 2 marriages before. It’s nothing to brag and my comments might be one sided not meaning that I’m perfect or better than my 2 exes but I simply want to explain what kind of problem someone can run into. I met the first one personally. We fell in love and I thought everything was fine. The only thing is she had a bad upbringing. Her father left when she was only 5 yrs. old and her mother didn’t give her children any real attention or love. WE were young and I thought since we were in love, that with time our love would grow as we would share our lives together and have children. To make this brief and short, after 15 yrs. of marriage and 5 children, she started escalating on the outside with all the attention she was getting and eventually, after 23 yrs. of being together, she left me with the 5 children and went with someone else. Her brothers and sisters followed the same pattern. For my second wife, I thought this time I’ll make sure we have a strong communication and that the love will be there. Everything was in order. We loved each other very much and the communication was perfect. We loved the same things, etc. I thought I would have her forever but I overlooked one thing. She was by-polar which is a mental disease. I didn’t know what by-polar was at the time but I do now. When she would shift on the negative side, she would accuse me of things that weren’t there and I believe she thought she was right. After 6 yrs. of marriage, she also left me even though she was as in love with me as I was for her. She simply thought it was the right thing for her to do religiously. The reason why I’m sharing these things is to let you know that even though things might look rosy, you need to look for all sorts of things. but I also do not want to cloud you mind. We simply cannot see everything into another person’s heart and mind. At some point we have to rely on our instincts and with enough time spent with the individual, we will have to exercise faith in them. Another thing is I feel beyond a shadow of a doubt that Heavenly Father has guided me to my two first wives. I believe we were suited for each other but we always have our free agency and a person can change with time. You can control yourself but you cannot control your partner. If you can then there is something wrong with him or her. I’m here because I’ve been very impressed with the women on this site. I know some might be playing cards but I sense that most are so serious about married life and I feel a sense of loyalty from them by the way they express themselves on their website. I hope to find someone that will stick with me this time. I cannot afford any more mistakes. I want to experience the rest of my life with someone. I just want to comment about age difference. Someone said age does not matter. It does if you are 80 yrs. old and your spouse to be is only 20 yrs. old and wants to start a family. There is a good chance those children won’t grow up with a father. Use wise judgement. I know that love does not have age barrier but commitment and responsibility does.

    Comment by Alfred Vienneau — January 12, 2013 @ 6:57 am

  30. my friend experienced this on the other site before i came to know her that, she have talked and been scammed by the black african man whom she met in the other site because the site in which she have joined were the place of scammers and i have learned that the owner of that other site is a black african person no wonder that a lot of black people are scammers just want to inform you that the scammers have so many tricks just to get the trust of there victims and then that is where they start scamming the victims like i am a soldier and here in our camp video is stricktly prohibited for security reason and they will send to there victims a document stating that the victim is requesting a 2 wks. yacation depending on how many days of the soldier want to spent there vacation and in there document of course we have to fill this up and then submit the document to the commanding general in the offiice of adjutant and the paper will again returned to the victim approved by the general and my friend believe this so she sent 20,000 dollars for the freiheiit or freedom from her boyfriend which is an officer and the money been sent thru western union her boyfriend said the money will be returned when he reaches his destinnation to ensure that he is safe so she did everything what her boyfriend told her believing that he is telling the truth and the money will be returnned later on but after sending the money to the u s army on the next day she is exppecting to talk to his boyfriend but no contak she call on the telephone no contak she write to the commanding general state no definite address everythng no contak and the money is gone i pity her its good that the money she sent is what she has saved for a long time she planned to burroow more money from me because normally it must be 30,000 dollars i said try 20,000 and she was hapy because her 20,000 been accepted from then on i have learned something from her lesson never believe the person in line not unless i talk to him face to face because there are scammers using pictures in video that when they show them in video the victim think that they are real or tapes in the video that when the tapes is all you wil notice that
    when you command them to stand or put there hands at the back or turning around the scammers cannot do the command from there victims i often do this to the person in whom i talk to the video and if they cannot do my command i sofort delete them no question no clearance no explanation because we are free to do anything in this world.

    Comment by hilda ferre-linke — January 12, 2013 @ 7:54 pm

  31. Hi Hilda, Alfred and others, We are sorry to hear some of the stories about some of the romance scams and mistakes that you have been witness to. We pray that everyone will be ok in the end. Please help us share the importance of these basic guidelines we have written for you all by forwarding this article to any friends who you know meet others online. And don’t forget, Hilda, we can’t judge a person by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — January 12, 2013 @ 8:02 pm

  32. Upon reading this topic thread I came to realized that how “getting to know each other “stage matters most.I feel sorry for you Alfred from your bad relationship experienced.But then I admired you for being very open about your past 2 wives.Each of us own and I believe each one of use have our own destiny.Have faith and maybe someday you will finally meet the lady whom your looking for,

    Comment by Marty — January 12, 2013 @ 8:16 pm

  33. I appreciate for having this topic in the blog section, this can help us consider whether the person is sincere or not, I also admire those who are brave enough to share their stories on failed marriages and I wish you find the real lifetime partner you are looking for. I am also looking for that right person and is so very careful in choosing one, I don’t want to commit mistakes as getting married is not just like any hot porridge that can be taken out from our mouth once tasted hot and so sweet. :) good luck to all of us and may God lead us to the right person…

    Comment by Gelay — January 14, 2013 @ 12:50 am

  34. Hi,thank you for this site and for all those send their comments here.Im enlightened,i have been a victim of scams in another site.The man was so fast in asking for every family member and their status in life.Everybody was excited about it my aunt even got hospitalized but only to found out that it was a fraud man i was talking to who was asking me money because he is somewhere in malaysia and is detained because he had brought along with him a bigger amount of money.I talked to that man first but then i cancelled his calls and told him to leave me alone,and im not answering another call from him again.Sometimes in our truthful way of looking for someone that will be the love of our life forever we are tested by circumstance.But i know a Greater God has wonderful plans for all of us.I hope to find that God’s Gift here.Thank you.God bless all of us.

    Comment by Ela — January 16, 2013 @ 9:17 pm

  35. Hi Ela,

    We are sorry you ran across a scammer in another site. And we are glad that you have found our site now, we pray that you will find the one for you also.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — January 16, 2013 @ 9:45 pm

  36. Hi…I met a guy from another site. We found out that we were both interested in each other. Since then, I keep on sending him e-mails of simple his and hellos, words to live by, happy thoughts and others. But every time he replies, he always want me to show(?) which I never did ever. That’s why I told him not to reply anymore in my messages…that it’s more than enough for me that he opens the mail. I must admit I don’t have a really pretty face which men are really obsessed of and even drool over. But I have a body and a sensible mind to compensate it. The reason why some men are scammed because they always look for a pretty face…which in time will lost radiance and value. Why not see what’s within? You don’t have to let a woman striptease in front of a cam…You can always talk to them in a more decent way. To women, you don’t have to do what these men please. Just be yourself and have self-respect. If they would reject you for not showing don’t have to worry. It’s not your lost. What’s important is that you show to them that you maybe everything but you’re not what they think you are!

    Comment by jessica — January 19, 2013 @ 6:51 am

  37. well said Jessica… and to the guys out there, I assure you those ladies who have still this decency within are those ladies who are not users and will not divorce or leave their husbands once they are bind as one.

    Comment by Gelay — January 20, 2013 @ 10:40 pm

  38. Hi cf, i been a member here for a while but in on and off. i meet a guy from USA. hoping that the relationship will work. but sad to say that he has a big problem about his self. but he treat me so nice at first just a minute change. maybe GOD has a better plan for me. so now hoping to meet the real man who truly honest. GOD BLESS everyone and thanks to this site for giving me another chance. I know someone for me here.

    Comment by virginia — February 6, 2013 @ 6:31 am

  39. Hi! I really appreciate your honest thoughts here. Let us keep on guarding our hearts for out of it are the issues of our lives. (Proverbs 4:23) Not all who claim to be Christians are such but it can only be seen in the manner of their conversations, their actions and especially, what comes in their minds goes out (though we cannot really judge the individual’s hearts). I find this site fascinating with active men and women and I learn so much here in learning different people’s backgrounds and personalities. May we keep our eyes upon Jesus and learn of Him and walk in His ways.
    To god be the glory!

    Comment by Beth — February 11, 2013 @ 5:19 am

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