We recently conducted a survey of some of our Filipina members. Over 300 Filipina members participated in the survey and here’s what we found were considered most important for a successful marriage:
1. Faithfulness or being faithful to each other
“To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.”
(1 Corinthians 7:10-11)
The Philippines is a country that is heavily influenced by the Christian doctrine and is one of the last countries, along with the Vatican City, where divorce is still banned. It is also one of the few countries where women are deemed conservative and have a strong belief in the sanctity of marriage. Filipinas, in general, are very faithful partners. This is why they seek partners that have similar values. These, combined with their huge interest in romantic movies and love stories, are the reasons why 86% of the total respondents believe that being faithful to their partners, is the most important key in a long lasting marriage.
“A wise man’s heart guides his mouth, and his lips promote instruction.”
77% of our Filipina members agree that communication has a vital role in one’s marriage. This is a nation that has produced many great leaders who fought adversity and promoted peace through words: Jose Rizal, Benigno “Ninoy” Aquino, to name a few. Filipinas believe that through open communication, couples can learn more about each other, and will have a better understanding of each other’s personalities. This, in turn, will nurture their marriage into something that is bound not only by matrimony, but most of all, by friendship.
“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye. …”
The Filipino value system of social acceptance is based on its tightly-knit familial ties where married couples usually still live with the man or the woman’s parents even after marriage. These familial ties extend even to other members like the siblings, grandparents, or in some cases, first degree relatives. It is also because of this fact that they expect their partners to accept, understand and love all the other members of the extended family. 71% of the members regard this value as an important part of a successful, happy and long lasting marriage.
Here is a summary of the survey results for the question “Which are most important to ensure a long-lasting marriage?“:
For full survey results, or to discuss the survey results, visit Filipina Survey in our forum section.