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How to Start Conversations

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Is it really that easy? Yes, just start simple!

Some of our members aren’t sure how to start a conversation with other members of our site.  Our advice is to start with short but meaningful messages.

For instance, if you come across a profile of a member you’d like to meet, we thing it’s quite reasonable to send a message like, “Hi, I came across your profile.  I appreciated what you said about [...].  Would you like to correspond? -Bill” or “Hi, I came across your profile.  You are listed as being 80 years old.  But your picture looks 30.  Why did you enter your age as 80? -Dieter” or “Hi, I noticed you’re looking to meet someone 25-45.  Well, I’m slightly outside your age range, so I’d like to know how flexible you are about that age item. -Lyn” or “Hi, I’d like to chat; if you don’t mind me asking, how often do you attend Church?”

We also think it’s a good idea to send winks to other members, especially if you are a free member who is only allowed 2 messages per day.  A wink is an indication that you liked something you noticed in a person’s profile.  Maybe the person will wink back, or maybe they will write a note back, or maybe not.  Even free level members are allowed many winks per day, so it’s an easy way to take the first step.


A man having a hard time starting a conversation with a lady


We do not encourage our members to write too much in their first messages.  If you have a lot to say, it might be effective to offer that as a silent prayer rather than a letter.  For the person sending the message, we think sending too long a message as a first step can build an emotional attachment that is inappropriate given that you still don’t know the other person.  For the person receiving, it can be overwhelming to receive too long a letter.  We believe it’s better to start with a short message that has some personalized content noted based on the profile.  Of course, it’s up to you.


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  1. thanks

    Comment by kris — February 14, 2010 @ 3:01 am

  2. I’m looking for marriage. I want true devotion, honesty, spirituality, committment, passion, attentiveness,atractiveness, wholesomeness, intelligence,enthusiasm,healthy, and love.

    Comment by Stanley — February 17, 2010 @ 8:48 pm

  3. thanks for the helpful advice – much appreciated

    Comment by phillip — February 18, 2010 @ 5:59 pm

  4. hello how are you
    godbliss and takecare always

    Comment by jhen — February 19, 2010 @ 4:36 am

  5. thanks it worked

    Comment by john quid — February 20, 2010 @ 11:56 am

  6. hi there

    Comment by conney — February 20, 2010 @ 5:56 pm

  7. hello to all my sisters and brothers in christ
    god is so good god bless u all

    Comment by mira — February 21, 2010 @ 10:58 pm

  8. hello too all…

    Comment by angel_cute — February 22, 2010 @ 8:54 pm

  9. Thanks to those who have helped demonstrate here how a few words can be a good way to start a conversation. Don’t be shy, take a chance and say hello to someone new today ;)


    Comment by Christian Filipina — February 22, 2010 @ 9:40 pm

  10. hi i am a filipna looking for a foreign friends,i am a separated woman one son he is 5yro,i am 41 yrs old

    Comment by anna — February 24, 2010 @ 12:16 am

  11. Hi Anna, that’s a fine way to start a conversation. Go ahead and join our site by signing up at and send a few messages like that per day.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — February 24, 2010 @ 9:51 am

  12. hi! i am new here.. and i love the ambiance of this site,,, i feel the warm welcome of everybody as well as the prayers and Gods word to establish a wonderful day.. hope i will have a lot of friends and hoping to find MR. Right made for me…

    Godbless you all and hav a great day!

    Comment by maria jane — February 25, 2010 @ 2:26 am

  13. i am new here im from Philippines :)

    Comment by yie — March 3, 2010 @ 12:51 pm

  14. hello!I am new here and i dont know how to searching for someone whom i can get along.

    Comment by chelou — March 3, 2010 @ 7:54 pm

  15. thanks for the tips and advice

    Comment by eve — March 3, 2010 @ 8:11 pm

  16. Thank you so much for an advice.. It really help us to choose what is the best site today…Thanks a lot and God Bless you all

    Comment by Christine Joy — March 4, 2010 @ 8:28 am

  17. hello., good to know that you are helping us to be happy in finding friends…

    Comment by merli arcena — March 4, 2010 @ 4:38 pm

  18. Hi there! thanks for the advice it helps a lot. God bless you all

    Comment by Beth — March 5, 2010 @ 1:07 pm

  19. thank you for having this way of looking for a better friend and partner.
    God blesss

    Comment by florie — March 5, 2010 @ 8:29 pm

  20. Hi! Im a widow and single just registered with Christian and I just wish to meet one nice and unique person to end up with him for a lifetime. Welcome every one.

    Comment by april emerald — March 6, 2010 @ 4:01 am

  21. hi! thanks a lot u helping us to find more friends in foreign places. God bless…

    Comment by eliza — March 8, 2010 @ 6:53 am

  22. I am truly blessed with this site and I pray that all here will be blessed as I am.May GOD bless us all,lots of love to all here.

    Comment by Rico — March 14, 2010 @ 4:52 am

  23. hello im here to search my futute husband i am honest and clean intention in joining in this site.

    Comment by marcelita — March 15, 2010 @ 7:05 pm

  24. im looking someone loves me accept with me who iam what iam…..i dont have anything but i only i give my faith,and my love.

    Comment by charo_portales — March 20, 2010 @ 6:07 am

  25. _.Hi! I’m Ann a filipina.. looking for someone who’s looking for me also.
    God Bless!

    Comment by Mae — March 25, 2010 @ 2:50 am


    Comment by TATA — March 25, 2010 @ 6:25 am

  27. hi im new here and i dont know how to start

    Comment by sweet — March 25, 2010 @ 7:40 am

  28. hi..hello everyone

    Comment by rorivic — March 27, 2010 @ 6:49 pm

  29. this is my first attempt to join here. hope i can find a right man tru here in this page that u can trust. I am an honest woman. GOD BLESS US.

    Comment by mariline — March 28, 2010 @ 1:13 pm

  30. Hi! everyone … Have a great day…

    Comment by bhing — April 2, 2010 @ 10:33 am

  31. Hi!friends i am a new here GOD BLESS U ALL

    Comment by aisel — April 3, 2010 @ 6:43 am

  32. It might be helpful if everyone understood that “simple”has different meanings in different cultures. To Filipinas, simple seems to mean honest, uncomplicated and not deceptive, all good things. Here in the States, more people think of simple as meaning not perceptive and or not too bright, which may not be the qualities a man wants in a partner he will depend upon to watch out for him. So I suppose it depends on which audience you are trying to reach.Just a thought. Best to all, David

    Comment by David — December 25, 2012 @ 11:42 am

  33. Hello!

    …am a Filipina and often describes myself as simple. Yes, I should understand that people interpret the word in different ways. But somehow, it’s kinda awkward, esp. for a typical Filipina, to be telling her attributes to others. You see, the meaning will always come from the beholder. But I still believe that more than anything else, christian men would always look on the inner beauty not on the physical attribute which is just skin deep.

    Comment by Jessica — December 27, 2012 @ 10:18 pm

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