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Examples of Scammer Fraud on Dating Websites, Advice From Those Who Learned The Hard Way, And Some Good News

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Be careful to be conservative. If there's a story that tempts you to pull out your wallet, just call the site management to ask whether you're being taken before you throw away your hard-earned savings.

As we’ve written in the past, in our articles in this blog, fraud is something that we all have to work together to prevent.  At Christian Filipina, we strive to screen out potential members who appear to have questionable motives.  We also screen some of the internal site mail, track login history, and ban users who are reported as violating our terms of service.  This is part of the value we add that our members appreciate and why hundreds and hundreds of our members have become upgraded members on our site.  We also try to keep our members as educated as possible about how fraud can happen over the internet, so that they can understand and take proper action if they find themselves in a situation like this.  Please read our past blog archives, and this letter, if you would like to learn more about these issues.

In our effort to educate, we have in the past given specific examples of fraud that was conducted on our website.  We are going to continue this tradition with this post.  Please fasten your seatbelts.

We make an effort to keep in touch with our members, and to encourage them to ask us questions about specific members, to report violations, and to ask us advice.  The following were collected from several members who unfortunately had bad news to share with us over the past several months.

  1. [...] I was new in using the net but should have read the warning. I was deceived and defrauded in a way of $3,503.00. Because I am a born again christian I was too trusting to a woman claiming to be a Christian too,on her profile and thru email and phone. I don’t regret helping but the reasons I was told turn out to be all lies. She claim to be graduating nursing student with balance in school. Then being an orphan raise by grandma and suddenly grandma in hospital so I felt sorry for her and in one month of sept.2009 I sent her that money thru western union. I caught her lying when I asked her the name of all the medicines she claimed to have paid for her grandma and she can’t remember any and yet a graduating nurse? I am a nurse myself so then I knew i was a victim of a scam.   I dig in more on your site and found she was using several profile name.  I knew her as apple, the other names she used are Rhonnie, Kelly,Precela. Her real name is Brina S. Bentolero of 14 camella dr. Zamboanga, zamboanga city 7000. The last Add. she directed me to send her the money was Barra Opol, Cagayan de Oro City. I sent her email  telling her that I will write this net to expose her scam and to warn other Christian men about her being an angel of deception.[...]You can post my letter for others to learn from my experience. I don’t blame the net. [...] Sincerely, [...]
  2. [] I was defrauded out of more than a couple thousand dollars. I never thought someone I was trying to help come to the U.S. to work would ever deceive and betray me, but that’s what happened. She was very cunning. Well a person lives and learns. Unfortunately, I thought I knew how to spot and handle a fraud, but I did not. I really got burned. I’m wiser now and know I must use all the tools available to make sure someone isn’t a fraud. Here are a few of the emails sent to me by Paula Reyes and her accomplices. The really sad thing is I thought I was helping someone come to the U.S. to work on a ‘work visa’ they were obtaining and not as a girlfriend. My efforts to help someone backfired. This Paula Reyes was/is part of a scam operation. Apparently she was living in General Santos City and finishing college in August when she initially emailed me. She claimed she had no family and was out of money. She said her mom abandoned her when she was 3 years old. After a few weeks she said she had been offered an “urgent hire” position as a caregiver at El Camino Hospital Foundation in California – which just happened to be in the same City where I lived. Then she claimed she needed to fly to Manila to “out process” with the caregiver agency who hired her. She claimed she needed money to fly to Manila from General Santos City. Then, when in Manila, she claimed to have gotten robbed and cut with a knife which gave her tetanus. Because of this she needed to spend a few days in the hospital…… It goes on and on. The bottom line is she and her accomplices Imelda Cruz and Norma Templado all conspired to extract money from me through this elaborate hoax/fraud. Please inform your website subscribers. I have many, many more emails in addition to these I have attached….
    • Subject: my flight details
      From: “paula reyes”
      Date: Fri, 4 Sep 2009 22:50:20 -0800
      To: <>
      departure- manila, philippines ( MNL )  fri, 18 sep 2009 22:30
      arrival- san francisco, san francisco international,
      united states of america ( SFO )  fri, 18 sep 2009  20:00
      flight- PR104  philippine airlines
      details- economy  non-stop
      []by tuesday i need to go to manila to go to the us embassy.
      i need 7,000 pesos fpr my plane ticket going to manila and i
       have to stay there until my flight plus my terminal fee of 150 $
       and room rent and allowance and its 5,000 pesos. []this would be my last wish.
        pls help e. this is it []we will meet soon which is Gods plan.
      7,000 pesos for plane ticket going to manila
      150$ for terminal fee
      5,000 pesos for room rent and food, fare allowances for 1 week
      pls help me for this []. thank you so much for making me happy and granted my wish.
      im sure i can have good life in your place and with you.
      may God bless you and guide you always. i miss you
      missing you
    • From:”paula reyes”
      Date:Sun, 6 Sep 2009 16:03:32 -0800
      hi [] i got the number of my agency. but if you call my agency today no one will
       answer you coz its holiday here in the philippines.
       but you can call my manager on her mobile phone.
      this is my agency number- +630835529899
      this is my manager number- +639073933167
      [], i already pack my things and i am very much ready here.
      pls pray me to God on my travel. thank you []and may God bless you and guide you always.
      missing you
    • Subject:Re: []/Paula Reyes
      From:”JRS Agency For Abroad”
      Date:Mon, 28 Sep 2009 17:27:32 -0800
      Mr. [],
      I Just Wan’t To Remind You About Paula’s Account.
      Did She Tell You That She Borrow The 500 US $, Because She Need To Have 1500 US $.
      The Need That To Complete The Amount That She Need To Open A $ Account.
      My Concern Mr. [] Is, That 500 US $ Is An Agency Fund. And I Need To Have It By
      Tomorrow Because The General Management Do A Monthly Audit For This Month.
      That Is My Problem Now Mr. []. If I Don’t Have That They Will Fire Me.
      I Have My Family Mr. []. I Really Need To Have This Job. I Hope You Understand My Part.
      God Bless And More Power!!!
      Respectfully Your’s
      Imelda R. Cruz
      JR’s Agency For Abroad
      Quezon City Branch

  3. Finally, here was a case that we heard of from one of our ladies in the Philippines –  it concerns a man she met on another site (not ours) claiming to be from UK/London.  I am including it here because I think the same kind of thing could happen anywhere.  He supposedly sent her a package containing $20,000 and the fraud was going to be to have her pay some kind of fee of hundreds of dollars to get the package (which would then be empty).  Somehow, there was even a tracking number created that appeared to be a real package in a shipping company website.  I don’t know how they did that, but I can tell you from reading this, that it is a hoax.  Here is the letter she received from him:
    My Love!

    Loving you is the best thing that has ever happened to me in so many years. My world has been so lonely until I found you and I have promised myself to love and cherish u as my wife.

    Honey, I will come to spend time with you and you and have lots of fun too. I want us to spend our time in the classiest places in your country. What we share Honey is very special and I want you to know that I love you from the inner most part of my heart..

    I think that your need is mine too. And meanwhile, i don’t want any worry in your life other than your hard working which determine to make a better and meaningful life. Just accept this token from me. It is nothing to show appreciative for the happiness which you have brought to my life since I met you, God has really blessed me with wealth but i never found true love. But I believe with you my searching for love has come to and send. Since there was no time to contact you any longer becos I never plan to live for Ireland, for your bank account details to do a bank transaction and bank transfer will take me a long process, I had no option than to sealed the money in the laptop park for your to care for yourself till I come.

    Darling, I have sent the gift to you before i left for Ireland for the contract i told you, i had an urgent call, I have to move immediately .honey these are the items: HP Product Laptop, Rose Flower and xmas flower, Sunny Digital Camera, Gold necklace with ring (engagement ring), christmas card, two of my personal pictures and the sum of (£10,000) pounds sealed in the same computer pack. Darling, i want you to use £5,000 pounds  to care for yourself  and  the  passport and keep £5,000 for our funs when I come to your country

    I sent it to your name and address you gave me. Name’ []Address: [], DAVAO CITY PHILS.800 Phone: (+63910[]) home and Emails ([]), from my inquiry the pack will arrive to your country and your house 4 to 6 day’s time.

    Please let me know when you receive the Gift.

    Below attached is a picture of the Laptop,  and pack containing the items so that you can identify it?

    This is the company I sent the gift so that you can get the information and movement of the Gift


    Username:         [] Password:     []       Tracking NO:     7383632

    NB: Go to the company website click tracking and paste the Username and password to long in, you see your information and thereafter click below to paste the Tracking no: to see the movement of the parcel to know when the gift will arrive.

    Please do this often and often. Take care of yourself till we meet

    with love from Engr. Steve Mathins.

Let me conclude this sad section with the reminders:

  • Do not ever send money to anyone you have never met in person
  • Take your time – especially if you are new to online dating and/or new to international social networking – so that you can learn the ropes of what warning signs to avoid.  We recommend you take several months to learn about this new way to meet people, and to meet people casually, rather than jumping into anything without meeting in person.
  • Insist on chatting on webcam, to be sure that the person in the pictures is the one who you are talking with, that the person typing is the one who is on the webcam, and that the person you are talking with is focused on talking with you, rather than chatting with several other people at the same time.
  • Be cautious of anyone who immediately wants you to switch to using yahoo messenger rather than correspond on our site – many scammers know that our site has a reputation for immediately suspending those who ask for money and so they try to only relate their sob stories or webcam sex invitations using your yahoo messenger.  If you hear any of those kinds of stories or invitations from anyone you met on our site, write to us with the user’s number, and we will suspend them immediately.
  • If you ever have anyone you met on our site ask you for money or suggest something illegal or immoral, contact us immediately using the feedback form on our site.  We are partners with you in helping to bridge the gaps between cultures, and we can only do that well when we communicate to you and you communicate to us.

We find that some people with good instincts tend to have an easy time choosing quality people to meet and sensing which to avoid, and some other people have to learn the hard way.  I hope this information we are sharing helps those of you who need to learn the hard way, to learn it a little more quickly and less painfully than some have had to learn.

We also decided to end this with a few good testimonials we received recently when we wrote to some of our members who had canceled their membership:

  • I am married now to a sweet kind good lady from Gingoog city, Mindano[...] Maby the girls here are more down to earth with moral values one would hope. Often the prettier they are the more difficult they are. Guys need to be very carefull here online looking for wives. Women are often willing to say anything and do anything to get a guy. The asain exterior charm and feminity can hide a scheeming, cold, materialistic woman.  Guys can”t see it sometimes. The longer  some women are online the more desperate  they seem to be, and jaded.  My wife recently told me about a local girl who was chatting 42 guys and getting money from many of them.  Guys can be so niave and gullable. Of course I think many men are treating sweet, kindhearted, simple, girls shabbily online from what I hear. You know, how wonderfull a good filipina girl can be. They are “THE BEST” wives in the world, and best in Asia. Christian background. Similar culture to America. Adaptable and family oriented. They are mostly vulnerable, niave, and simple, and sweet, and looking for love, and I don’t think they should have to suffer the bad treatment. Some guys don’t have a clue how genuine a good Filipina can be. I hope your goodhearted  clients all find good husbands espercially the ones who have kids and need help. I have a family  there to support too. They are so poor and need my help. Gods plan I guess. You know I think a poor family there is capable of raising a better woman than many “rich” families here. No attitude, bad language, tatoos, smoking, drinking, and running around, selfish, materialistic, cold attitude, plastic ect.  To improve your site, you need better photos, and a space to allow the woman to describe herself and what she wants in a man.  A womans eyes tell her personality, and usually match what she states about herself and what she wants in a man, and in life with him , this should be clear in her own words. This can aid in helping all find a better match. Happy ending.
  • Yes,I met someone from your website and we are to be married hopefully,in January.
  • I canceled my membership because I found the love of my life on your website,  She is beyond any woman I ever dreamed of.  I thank God for your webiste and ask God to bless those who seek somone special on your website.  I have found my pinay.
  • I cancelled on your site because I found that special someone on your site.I live in a place where born again Christians with good morals are few and far between.I briefly tried a site in the U.S. only to find the same horror stories I had heard about.When I saw your site I tried again only because you were a Christian site.I have never dated outside of my country before and now I am going to Cebu to meet in person for the first time [].With web cams and messenger the technology is amazing to learn more about a future partner.I want to thank you for a site where people with values and morals can go to meet other people…God Bless you …and p.s. we are making wedding arrangements as we speak I am confident all will go well in our meeting…Thanks,again

God Bless to all our members, especially those who are not scammers, but even them, may those who are dishonest and not humble be touched by the Spirit to leave behind those ways, and may those who do follow the commandments of the Lord be rewarded and live in His love and in the community of loving believers.

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  1. Its sad that pinay women are scamming men out of their money. It is also sad that foreign men are treating filipino women shabbily. I hope I wouldn’t have to meet persons who’s like that. I choose this Christian Filipina ‘coz I know they won’t allow those things to happen here.

    Comment by CL — January 2, 2010 @ 1:22 pm

  2. Thanks for your trust, CL. We certainly do our best to screen out any member who tries to take advantage of others. We also have designed the site to be as frustrating as possible to those negatively-motivated personalities (so they stay away), while trying to keep it pleasant for our sincere members. We’re still ashamed of some of the fraud we were not able to prevent, however. That’s why we had to resolve to be completely open with our members about these problems so that you understand you must be cautious as you get to know other members.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — January 2, 2010 @ 4:12 pm

  3. I’ve been aware of scamers for a long time, and I’ve noticed that a few women have had the same experience too. I haven’t been on this site for long, but I have noticed that there are a lot of very lovely ladies here, with big hearts. Some even with kids. I do have an advantage that few have, My dad could smell a scam from across the world. He tought me everything I need to know about avoiding scames. That’s why anyone ask’s for money, I immidietly check into it, useing all of my knowlage as a sciptracer to check things out. the moral of this story is LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP!!!! unless you have visited anyone, and question anything, don’t send money. If you sespect something is wrong, ask the people running the site. I’m sure they will be more than happy to help.

    Comment by roger — January 11, 2010 @ 2:49 pm


    Comment by princess — January 11, 2010 @ 9:32 pm

  5. yes! it’s really sad to think that in this 3rd world country like mine, sometimes “Lies, is behind the sweet lover words of Filifina” (not to let down my race, but it’s the fact of reality) but sometimes i would think it’s a mutual symbiotic relationship if both sides have give and take relationship, for foreign take the advantage of situation

    Comment by ivory — January 18, 2010 @ 6:40 am

  6. This is a good article on Christian dating. Thanks.

    Comment by Max — January 22, 2010 @ 8:24 am

  7. great tips thanks!

    Comment by Max — February 8, 2010 @ 9:31 am

  8. I have been the victim of scams in the past. Not for great amounts of money but a victim none the less. It has been a lesson well learned. There are deceptive and dishonest people everywhere. I haven’t been a member of this site for very long but as soon as I filled out a profile and began my search I knew I had found the site I had been searching for. I have high hopes for your site and I am confident that I won’t be disappointed. I want to thank you for your willingness to provide your members with some insight to the possible dangers they could encounter. God bless and keep up the good work

    Comment by Fred Vincent — February 10, 2010 @ 9:27 pm

  9. Hi Fred,

    Thanks for your kind words. My wife and I are constantly motivated to continue offering this site by many members who privately express their appreciation and tell us their stories. It’s sad that many of us (me included), who might be overly trusting in some situations, had to learn some of these things the hard way. As I tell our members who call our toll-free number (1-877-FIL-IPIA), we encourage our members to take their time to meet people (don’t let things advance too quickly), and to write or call us to talk about any suspicious activity, because we might be able to help understand whether a situation is realistic, too good to be true, or too bad to be true.


    Comment by Christian Filipina — February 10, 2010 @ 10:30 pm

  10. hmmm im sad to hear that have few filipina”s scammers,,but not all ples dont think that all filipina scammers ,,,all country have that,,,i hope i find true friend here to,,,, thanxx,,and god blesss,,,,

    Comment by gwynette — July 12, 2012 @ 2:12 pm

  11. yes i agree is happen to me, men from other website if is asking money or send a gift to you do not accept until you really sure who they are, check any iformation about them , lucky for me i check them first before i send money that what i found they are fraud,double check there information best thing to do protect our self doing the right thing dont trust anyone even there very kind and helpful and nice to you,that most target the good people like us,fraud people tell everything you want to hear does not work with me,until there willing to get to know you,scam people dont show there face also and make story about themself and profile photo,yes not everyone,or all over the world there have people scammer,stop to us to protect ourself,

    Comment by tessie doherty — July 12, 2012 @ 2:43 pm

  12. On filipinocupid i was scammed big time,i was to big hearted,i talk and chatted with this women for over a yr,it started out small amounts to buy food which i was ok with down the line electricity,rent,grandma needed medicine,uncle need work uniform,i was to big hearted,i bought plane ticket she never showed,said immagration gave her hard time,tried again later,she supposly maid it to losangeles,but needed more money to get on plane,and wanted me to send money to friend in pi,i heard every excuse,i dshould of just fly myself to philipines,next time i will,i say never send money unless u meet them,i was dumb,i was feeding the whole family which was never true,grandma died and they needed burial money ya right,then uncle died and needed money to burey him,this woman was alexis mondragon out of general santos ,,watch out,she will when ur heart and try to break the bank,over the yr im embarrased to say how much i sent,i thought i was helping the unfortunate it

    Comment by mark — July 12, 2012 @ 8:33 pm

  13. Oh my God they got me for 2000and 3000 she told me her mom died and didn’t have no money to bury her mum then she said her mum had money but she can’t get it because she needed id and she didn’t have id so she gave me a check so i could cash it i was so stupid i put it in my bank account took $5000 dollar out my account and she told me i can keep the other $2000 then i sent the money to her she told me she love me and can’t wait to see me so my bank called me and told me the check i put in my account was a scam and i had to replace the money back i was looking so stupid in the bank and they said it look just like a real check but some many people had got scam so if someone tell you to cash a check for them run the other way and she had her nerve to write me again and ask me how was i and what did i do with the money from the check i wanted to call her a whole lot of name but i didn’t i told her i want to come there to see her she had a nerves yo tell me to send her some money to get her here i told her to hold on and call the police in ghana when i start talking back to her she knew something was wrong and said she had to go but the police told me they no where she was chatting from and its men and woman working there to get money and they was doing this to people all around the world but now i no better and that makes it hard for the honest girls thats really there to find someone ..but everybody be aware all thats a scam so please watch because its bad their ….

    Comment by BabyboyWill — July 12, 2012 @ 9:49 pm

  14. Hi guys, So sorry to hear about what has happened to you out there. BadBoyWill where did you meet that scammer? Sounds like a slick sob story, keep up the faith, there is something better and right out there for you.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — July 12, 2012 @ 10:13 pm

  15. Scammers are everywhere. you shouldnt judge all filipino women to be scammers just because of few tomato rot out there. I reasonw hy you found those rots is because you guys are opting to have a wild, outgoing and very open girlfriends. But if you will really take times to read some infos about’ll found out that we are not so liberated like any other foreign women. we were raised on a not so industrialized country as so the reason why were like “naive” as they say..well a word naive is a bad word to hear but okay let it be.

    Foreigners also ruin our morality. They like to sex us first before deciding if they’ll marry the girl or not. We were not raise that way since you’ll know that philippines is a christianized country..but really..the truth is..foreigners ruined our morality. you thought us to be you say..and liberated.

    We just want to find a decent man to marry and somebody who truly understand us but sad to say..guys everywhere like to play fire on us.So why you blame filipinas to be scammers? blame yourself guys. you started it. Am not saying that am a scammer like them, but am a filipino and i am so proud of my race no matter what happened.
    Just dont ruin our filipina morality guys. respect us and you’ll find harmony with us.

    Comment by malyn — July 12, 2012 @ 10:37 pm

  16. I tried Filipino Cupid and could not believe the amount of scammers on that site. I activated account for one month and out of 25 contacts I had 22 were scams. Yes they do use Yahoo Messenger and even though they chat with you on webcam they can do this with multiple guys st once. When chatting always see if there is a long delay before answering if you watch closely its pretty obvious. Look around her usually they get coaching on what to say they always have their aunt or cousins with them. So even while doing webcam you can be scammed. Also obvious scammers never seem to be interested in your family members or names of your family members. They always seem to be in school or can’t finish coz they need tuition money or a laptop or money for a project at school. Medicine for parents is popular tactic. And look for pictures of filipina actresses or models they use as profile pics. Always ask for informal pictures with family members . If they say no camera or send money for better cell phone its a scammer. I am not saying majority of Filipinas are scammers but majority of Filipinas on dating sites are. Come on guys! A beautiful 26 year old filipina is ok with you at 55 years old? Many of these girls are married have boyfriends helping in the scam. I tried FC and have better luck but scammers are everywhere….if she never asks for money and just wants know you and your personal life…she may legit…I always write down answers to questions then later maybe days a week I ask same questions scammers always forget what they say coz their dealing with multiple guys and can’t remember all the lies. Their is an app out there that allows you to scan a picture and will tell you name of person if is actress or model or has been in any magazines. It works great!!!I have caught so many scammers this way…..I hope FC finally helps me a real Filipina but I’m not holding my breath….if anyone needs assistance on types of scams I’ll be glad to help…the scammers can be very good….good luck !

    Comment by Rudy M. — July 13, 2012 @ 12:56 am

  17. i was a victim of scam in .its been a sad experience i evr have.i thanks god i have my family protected i am paying debt from my friends because i borrow money to get the package where the custom asked 21,000 from me.i am student and cant afford to pay it but a my desire because i already fall inlove to the uk man imy family borrow money.but after all .its a scam..
    pls beware of scammer…

    Comment by joy — July 13, 2012 @ 1:10 am

  18. Really great that you publish about the scammer on line , i was scam a few times. it,s not just the filipino ,Russian ,Nigerian and most countrie have there share ,especially trying to get older retired men, and women. I helped a lot of Filipino women before I came to the philippians, they really have a lot of sad stories, some of very true, and some women are very sincere here .but they have a different culture and belief ,have to be very patience and willing to accept there way of life. and it,s very costly to marry a filipino, be ready for that. plus most are looking for you

    Comment by marcus f ferguson — July 13, 2012 @ 5:00 am

  19. hi guys,

    guys in every country there is a scammers, i feel sad about the comment of filipina girls, but take note guys not all girls are scammers… u know guys i am the victim also of scam………. thats y i stop chating……….. anyway guys becareful when u chating in any website….. not only boys also the girls bcause many man also scammmers……… gudluck, enjoy, god bless………. all. thanks to christian filipina dating or info.

    Comment by lyngen — July 13, 2012 @ 10:29 am

  20. i am so sad of the plenty comments about the Filipinas..please i beg you there who claim that Filipinas are dont generalize us..yes i was also scammed.But God gave us knowledge how to think it many times before doing a move. i am seeking a guy until now i could not find the one right for me. i am afraid to be scammed Thnks to Christian Filipina site that helps a lot with their effort. God bless you Jen and Peter for having this site.

    Comment by Maria Flor — July 14, 2012 @ 1:52 am

  21. To Fred Vincent and Mark..i am so sad of what happened to you was a great embarrassment for what some Filipinas who have done to you. i am also a Filipina and i am sad they do that.

    Comment by Maria Flor — July 14, 2012 @ 1:58 am

  22. hi.. to those women practising scam… shame on you…

    Comment by ymmy — July 14, 2012 @ 4:50 am

  23. It’s so sad to know that scammers never had second thought on using the name of God on fooling other people. They try to entice men by saying nice words pretending to be Christians but are not. My advice is to pray and ask God’s guidance, if you are really true to your intention it will be given to you… Don’t be very open because scammers can easily detect how compassionate you are. I’m a victim also, 4x not on this site, sending me messages with sweet words and so many promises. That parcel thing, had encountered the same but before I decided to send money I asked myself what have I got to accept this gift? Even if we exchange “i love you” a hundred times it will not cost this much. We know how generous Western men are but we should think a second time. I was not deceive but a bank employee friend of mine was, she sent $1000 to Malaysia because her parcel was held in the immigration there. It was a fraud and it was too late for her to detect it. Scammers are alike whether they are men or women. Read advices and be aware at all times… Good luck and God help us to meet the right person…

    Comment by Elsie C. Gardon — July 14, 2012 @ 5:21 am

  24. Sorry to hear about so many kinds of frauds going on. I was reading one of them. it was so obvious its a fraud. Hey, listen, bottom line, dont give anyone money over the net, dont matter how sad the story goes. I’ve been hit for money, never did give any. its amazing how they turn away so fast. but always report it.

    Comment by Trino — July 15, 2012 @ 1:12 pm


    Comment by LIAM NIEW — July 30, 2012 @ 4:30 am

  26. i think dating website is now a money making for some women who are not really interested in meeting men on dating websites.some women realized that creating more then one account on a dating website could generate a lot of money for their scamming.One particular places a woman uses is part of Cebu,Zamboanga or Mindanao you would hardly find a scammer living in Luzon,or Manila because this is much closer to the airport.No offense for the women living part in Mindanao.

    Comment by kidlat — August 4, 2012 @ 9:26 pm

  27. Hi Kidlat, Thanks for your feedback. You are right to be cautious. We also have another article about Mindanao and Cotabato in particular where we expressed caution about those areas. Of course, a scammer can be anywhere (even next door) and the best strategy is to be cautious and never to send any money to someone you have not yet met in person.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — August 4, 2012 @ 9:52 pm

  28. Hi! Re: sending money to a person you have not met in person, i beg to disagree…the reason should be considered. i am a Missionary. A few friends had been sending for the mission work even before they met me in person. But there are proofs for the mission work. A person in the US had sent balikbayan box of candies, chocolates, clothes and shoes to me twice at two different mission address (Botolan, Zambales in Feb 2011 and at Olongapo City in Nov 2011) view my personal and mission FB account for the mission report. i have also introduced some Filipina ladies to some Christian American brothers. Two couples have married.Sadly, the mission support stops once the Filipina gets “jealous” of the mission. haha..God bless your site, dear sister and brethren

    Comment by jovey — August 8, 2012 @ 9:48 pm

  29. Hi Jovey, We have nothing against well-organized charity. We believe it is the responsibility of someone who is giving to see to it that a gift is appropriate and gets into the right hands. Since unfortunately most people cannot do this easily without meeting in person, we encourage only one way to make a gift to the Philippines, which is to the Philippine Red Cross (see the website at and click Donate). Because of the industry of fraud that has been spawned by abusers and naive newcomers to international internet dating, we do not allow anyone to request money from others they have met on our site. In fact, soon we will also be implementing a policy that it is also against the rules for any member to send money to someone they haven’t met in person as well.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — August 8, 2012 @ 10:49 pm

  30. It is a nice policy.i pray that god will keep on keepinh-off scammers from this wonderful site.

    Comment by Akingboye franklin — August 15, 2012 @ 2:06 pm

  31. many really scammers in site but its up to us if we allow it ,for me if they ask for money i soon block or dellete that person,love is not inreturn of money matters,thats why many man from another country look us as a low profile ,but we dont have right to judges,many used god for there benefits but later it never bring good also,lies and deceive never been happy in life cos they are not contented,but thanks to cf they do there best to protect people in there sites,and ill continue to pray …that this site cf still many good man and woman have a true heart to find the man or woman that they will love…

    god bless everyone ask god for a wisdom before we decide pray that the holy spirit will guide us….


    Comment by porti — August 16, 2012 @ 10:03 pm


    Comment by LIAM NIEW — August 18, 2012 @ 11:24 pm

  33. I was just scammed for $15,000 over the last 8 months. It’s easy to say not to send money, but they make you fall in love and then there is a logical reason to send money. In my case it was $7,000 for tourist visa, and money for all kinds of things, glasses, travel to get passport stamped, new cell phone, air conditioner, etc etc. What was I suppose to do? Not give money to the girl I loved? What am I a heartless man? I had no idea these girls just lie through their teeth like that, mine was a former Nun, and a girl who works as a missionary, etc. She knew all the right things to say at all times, and said them in a very complicated way, making it appear to me by reading between the lines that she was telling the truth. I remember during the last 8 months I would stop myself and say to myself, “it is possible this girl is scamming you, but if she is, wow, she deserves an Academy Award and then some for her acting”. Well, in hindsight, we need to give her an Academy Award and me the dumbo award. The fact is us Americans are simply not thinking that a human being could be such a liar, and have no heart whatsoever. That’s what people need to learn here, we are dealing with a type of person that is evil by their nature. She even went to the Convent and came back “holy” and “blessed” after taking my money. She gives the term “hypocrite” a whole new meaning. Beware out there, it’s jungle. As for me, I’m all through, girls aren’t worth it to me anymore, I’ve seen to much and been through too much, maybe I’m just unlucky I don’t know, but girls from what I can see simply aren’t worth it anymore…

    God Bless…

    Comment by David — August 23, 2012 @ 10:17 pm

  34. Hi David, Sorry to hear that story. I am glad that you have now found our site and our advice articles so that you can share your experience for the benefit of others, and also recognize not to make the same mistake again.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — August 23, 2012 @ 10:33 pm

  35. I’ve read all the stories and I was so related to it. I met 2 guys but different date on online dating site one is from we chat for a month and God knows that I really fell on him because he’s so sweet and I thought he is the one but everything turns to be like a broken glass because he said he sent me gifts and when he email those gifts I was shocked its too expensive but from then I had a got feel that its not good to give gifts that so expensive to someone you just know for a month but I just ride on his trick and at the end I found out that I am right he just want to get money from me because the courier he said to me emailed me saying that my package was stock in an airport and needs me to pay for the taxes. but he didn’t get any from me because as far as I know if someone send you anything he/she will pay for everything included the taxes and you just have to do is wait the package at your front door. It was happened for 2nd time with other site at same strategy happened. From that experience I don’t want to go on line for months but until I got advertisement from this site hoping that I can found the real man love here it’s not important if he is rich or poor but most importatnt is he will love me for who i am and my past specially my kids…HOPE THIS SITE WILL HELP ME TO LOOK OUT SPECIALLY IT’S A CHRISTIAN SITE…More power to this site…:)

    Comment by Kristina Karen San Diego — September 10, 2012 @ 12:13 am

  36. Hi Kristina, Sorry to hear that you came across the scammers. Yes it is quite common at most sites. We are glad you did not fall for it. And we are glad you found our site now. Welcome home!

    Comment by Christian Filipina — September 10, 2012 @ 12:19 am

  37. I am so sad how the filipina girls being a scammer? that in fact i am also a nearly victim of it..I am a filipina live in mindanao. I am a newly member of site at the time happened. I meet a man online name BRIAN HAROLD FROM ENGLAND. He send me a picture and always communicating me thru email till he successfully wins my heart.He told me that he is coming to my country and wants to meet me… he send me package but it needs me to pay for the taxes and it was hold by the costum. I never send money because i have doubt at the time.I ask my friend in manila to check if it is true that I have a package their. Brian got angry with me thru email he called me basterred. But the story repeat itself when I continue searching a true man online thru I meet JAMES JOHN JAVIER and the same story was happened. The more I never send money coz I already know and i am sure that he is also a scammer. With those experienced of mine,, i lost my interest in finding a true and honest man online especially white man because most of them are only making fun and asking for sex. Immediately when i realized them.I deleted that kind of man in my contacts and block them.Which I hated them for being disrespectful. Until such time I learned about your site Christian and got interested of. Now I am a newly member of your site.Hoping that thru this site i can find my soul mate. MIND YOU SOME WHITE MAN.. NOT ALL FILIPINA GO ONLINE ARE PROSTITUTE!!!..Pls..their are some also who is good and not liberated nor flirt. Just like you.. i know some of you are good too. I have still keep the letters, pictures of BRIAN HAROLD AND JAMES JOHN JAVIER as my evidence.BEWARE OF THEM !!!! To thanks a lot for knowing your site…. Godbless!!!

    Comment by Cecelle Gardose — September 14, 2012 @ 10:31 am

  38. sad to hear the story, the dating site,so many scammers there,somebody chatting you,all the good words they said to you,and they sent you a package,so maany gadget,including money,and then the package arrive,somebody txting you rgrding that,they ask money for 9twsnnd to get the package,until you lost youre money,sad to know that co pinay they connives with the foreigner in tagged,a big scammers,til now they do that,hope that the cebu authorities will do something to stop this stupid scam,how pity other people,i know this site have dignity,and well educated,thanks,,,,

    Comment by hellokitty — September 21, 2012 @ 3:14 am

  39. Hi,David!I’ve read your comment it’s so sad,But don’t regret she is not for you.In Matthew 7;7- Ask and it will be given to you,Seek and you will find,Knock and the door will be opened to you.God will give you the right woman.She is worth more than $15,000.Be happy,God is good! God bless you.
    Thank you,Christian filipina and More Power to your Dating site!

    Comment by Anita1937 — September 21, 2012 @ 11:57 pm

  40. Hello, I am a 55 year old Irishman and a active practising Catholic and Christain. I have spent the last 2 years on the dating site Filipino Kisses and have come to the conclusion that they are mostly scammers on this site. I get at least 10 proposals everyday and I have gotten so mis-trusting of there motives that I don’t reply.
    I have had a sad life since my wife passed away in 1994 and I was left to rear two children on my own. I have always believed Filipino Ladies were decent God fearing ladies until I went online and discovered otherwise. Because of the way my life has turned out my self confidence and belief in myself has taken a battering and I have developed a mistrust of people and there motives. I believe if I could find a good Filipina lady, I could rebuild my life and be happy ever-after. Please please if anyone on this site can help me and guide me I would be truely grateful. I would like any lady I meet to come to Ireland and if we hit it off I would return to The Philippines with her to live in her country. I say this because my meager pension, while enough to survive her in Ireland, would give me and my lady a good life in The Phillipines and in any event I have felt a strong calling for some years to live in The Philippines. I am open to all suggestions from Christain Filipina and it’s members. Ps I have never travelled outside of Ireland and would fear going to The Phillipines on my own, that is why I would like the lady to come here first. She would be well taken care of. I belive from what I have read on Christain Filipina that this could be the site for me. Please help this lonely somewhat insecure Irishman.

    Comment by Ger Roche — October 4, 2012 @ 12:41 pm

  41. Sorry, I should point out that in no way do my comments on Filipino Kisses reflect the dating site. I do know of many successful stories from this site. My remarks are based on my experience and probably have more to do with my insecurity than I would care to acknowledge.

    Comment by Ger Roche — October 4, 2012 @ 12:48 pm

  42. Hi Mr. Roche, Sorry to hear that you came across many scammers. Unfortunately, most international dating sites are dominated by people who have “gone over to the dark side” of trying to trick people to send money. For example here is one story: It is quite sad to see. For this reason, we insist that all our members do not send money to someone they have not yet in person. If you ever have any questions about this policy or about any member on our site, just call us from US/Canada at 800-578-1469 or with a US country code then 424 253 0604 from outside the US/Canada.

    Regarding your suggestion to have a lady meet you in Ireland, I doubt this will be possible for you unless the Filipina is already in the E.U. We do already have some Filipinas in Ireland and other EU countries, but for those in the Philippines it is highly unlikely she would be able to get a visa to see you without having met you in person in the Philippines first and applying as your fiance or spouse.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — October 4, 2012 @ 2:16 pm

  43. I was glad to find your website as I searched for site about scammers. Will include a link to it on my blog page titled “Meet Ladies of the Philippines”

    Comment by Timo — October 10, 2012 @ 12:06 pm

  44. member #92922…at least she didn’t ask for a little. went for it all asking for 7,500 pesos….hehehe

    Comment by bruce buck — October 11, 2012 @ 7:17 am

  45. Hi Bruce, Sorry to hear that, but thanks for letting us know. We’ve now removed that member.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — October 11, 2012 @ 10:24 am

  46. Hi everybody.
    As i read some of the members comment.I also one of the scammers vitims of the other sites.
    I felt very sad thats some american people had bad impression about Filipina girls…I just want to let you know men that not all Filipina is scammers.
    So many Filipina ladies is good and have honest and true intention to look for a lifetime partner here.
    I just want to make it clean not only women is scammer men also doing that.Some of then using other’s identity and they have some sweet and promising words…But when you asking them to show there face on cam..then they have so many excuses…
    We all need is to be very careful and need more time to know the person well.
    Liars and scammers had a very sweet words.They sending you a long love note a very lovely poem.
    Good luck to all of us who have a good intention here.
    God bless and more power CF.
    From Maria

    Comment by Maria — November 4, 2012 @ 11:40 pm

  47. After reading all the comments I just like to share some stanzas of 1 of my favorite Christian Songs, “Trust His Heart” by Babbie Mason that I’m sure will help us in remembering that whenever we experience things that we really cannot understand, ALL we need to do is to Trust His Heart: “All things work for our good / Though sometimes we don’t see how they could / Struggles that break our hearts in two / Sometimes blind us to the truth. Our Father knows what best for us / His ways are not our own / So when your pathway grows dim / And you just don’t see Him Remember you’re never alone. God is too wise to be mistaken / God is too good to be unkind / So when you don’t understand / When you don’t see His plan / When you can’t trace His hand / Trust His heart.
    Very True Right? So, All we need to do is to do our part as a children of God & to Trust His Heart.

    Comment by Anonymous — November 22, 2012 @ 5:45 pm

  48. Filipina scammers and foreign men looking for adventures Part I

    Hi guys. I have been scammed myself big time in the Philippines and after agonizing about this, I decided to go public with the my ordeal to avoid others to go through my heart breaking experience.
    2 generations ago, Filipinas were considered possibly the best wives in the world. Deeply religious,conservative, shy,highest possible moral standards, humble, most observing Christians, good daughters, good sisters, good wife material, fine human beings. They would be prepared to die for their family. Unfortunately, this is no longer the case in many instances. A new industry is in place “take the foreigner to the cleaners, get as much money and advantages from him as possible”. To be fair, most Filipinas are decent, honest anre truly looking for a husband. Why they go for North Americans, Europeans, Australians etc? Because the classical Filipino men, aka pinoys, with rare exceptions, because this I believe is cultural, are womanizers, disrespectful, insensitive, “macho types”, selfish, irresponsible and immature. They deflower the girls, get them pregnant and bye bye. This using the words and testimony of countless Filipino ladies I talked to. It is true that a lot of foreigners prey on SouthEastern ladies for sex and on Chinese women for money. Let us be fair, there a LOT of crooked men out there (not all) that do “sex tourism) in countries like poor Latin America Countries and in Asia the target specially Filipinas, Malaysians, Thais and Indonesians.The so called “sex tourism” includes pedophiles and married men that use the opportunity of a business trip to these countries to feast in lust and sex. This is loathsome to say the least. Also, many rich Japanese, South Koreans and Chinese businessmen that travel frequently to these countries end up getting a “kirida”, the Filipino expression for lover, is how the men call girls which they are engaged in an extra marital affair with them. They take advantage of the horrible financial, social and political scenario of a country like the Philippines, to prey on the girls. They target girls as young as 18 to up to early 30ish (usually single mothers or separated going through financial hardship). I saw in forums some immoral and heartless people use the expression “sex supermarket” referring to the Philippines and Thailand specially. Continue……..

    Comment by Bira — November 24, 2012 @ 11:19 pm

  49. Filipina Scammers, part II

    It is not my intention to write a book, an essay or a thesis here and get you tired of reading my words, so let us go straight to the point.
    I met this girl in perhaps the worst Dating site that is out there “Cherry Blossoms”. If it is not the largest is certainly one of the big ones. Now I know that they should be called “Scammers Paradise”. They must do very little screening, if any of the girls that are in the site and could not careless if you are scammed or not, they are in this just for the money, it is up to you to protect yourself.
    I immediately empathized with the girl, she seemed clean cut, with a fairly good knowledge of the Bible and the Christian principles and values and best of all, she was a Pentecostal like me. As a matter of fact,get this, her father was a Reverend !!!!! It was too god to be true. She had a sad story (most scammers do). She claimed she was brutally raped by a man in his mid fifties when she was only 14. The man was a close friend of her father, which did not denounce him to the police as he should. After that she had a pinoy BF that forced her to provide him with sexual favors in his car and finally she got this BF that got her pregnant. As soon as he got pregnant the man ran from her like she had the Plague never to be seen again. So, she was a single mother at age of 16, which is very common in the philippines. Mind you, in my study, 60% of pinays age 16 to 23 are single mothers. I met girls early 20s with 3 kids from 3 different fathers. This is not to say that Filipinas are promiscuous, I feel that they are more naive than anything else. Nowadays, all over the world, very unfortunately, girls start to have sex at a very early age, the difference is that they use means to avoid pregnancy and STDs and the pinays don’t, the legacy of the unrealistic and outdated teachings of the Catholic Church, which is not in pace with these times.
    I fell in love with the girl and decided to marry her and adopt her son as my natural son. He was a lovely boy and I really cared for him.
    A little background about me (no arrogance intended, arrogance does not fit he profile of a self proclaimed Christian). I am a Doctor, with a Master’s degree and I come fro a very strict, traditional, upper class, ultra conservative family, originally from France and Belgium.
    Continue ……..

    Comment by Bira — November 25, 2012 @ 12:01 am

  50. Filipina scammers part III

    After all was said and done, I packed my suitcases and headed to Davao City, the most important city of the Southern Philippines. Davao City is in Mindanao, one of the largest and most populated islands.
    Just in time, before I forget. When I joined “Cherry Blossoms” was because I was hoping that Asian women had traditional values, since I felt that Western society was deeply corrupted morally, financially, emotionally and even worse, spiritually. It was all about sex, power and money. I was coming out of a devastating, crippling, traumatizing divorce that hurt the very core of my soul. My ex cheated on me, I had a huge financial loss, I sold my house for a song and all things added up to a approximate 350 thousand dollars loss, not to mention the stress, the humiliation, the feeling of being used, I came to the stage of contemplating suicide. I lost 30 kilos in 2 months, my immune system was shut down, I never drank spirits before and was drinking 1 to 1 and a half liter of spirits a day and almost not eating. To make matters worse, an opportunistic virus decided to dwell in my heart and I was between life and death for a month in a hospital and the doctors could not even diagnose the disease that was afflicting me.
    Anyways, I got to Davao, she and her family were waiting for me and they took me to her home. I was horrified to say the least. They leaved in a filthy slum in a shack with 3 rooms, a small kitchen/dining room and living room, a windowless cubicle I estimate 3X4 meters and a small, primitive (not even a shower) bathroom. In the “bedroom”, only a thin low density foam totally infested by bed bugs covered the floor. Eight adults and her baby, used this foam to sleep at night. How they did it? go figure. No basic sanitation, no light (they did not pay the utilities bill, no running water. A little piece of hell. Davao itself is horrible, the most polluted air I have ever seen, hundreds of small motorcycles burning a mixture of gasoline and oil, the air is not breathable, the city water a menace to your health, corruption and crime abound.
    In the Philippines, 5% of the population “owns” 95% of the country, live like kings. The remaining population struggle to survive. Extremely high unemployement, no social programs, no Universal health care, no unemployment, no old age security, most people live like a candle in the wind, without knowing were the next meal will come from. Please go to Yotube and watch “5 thousand Filipino children die A DAY*. The documentary was shot by American missionaries. I have been there, is the pure and sad reality. The legacy of 300 years of the Spaniard Colonialism and the American rule that did NOT do anything to help them, coupled with rampant corrupt and incompetent politicians, a brutal police, terrorists and the Catholic Church that interferes with every aspect of Filipino life.

    Comment by Bira — November 25, 2012 @ 12:42 am

  51. Filipina scammers part IV

    I rented an excellent house in an upper class part of the city, entirely furnished the house and brought ALL her family to live with dignity and comfort.

    I gave her a first class Birthday party and we got engaged. In the engagement party I gave her a ring, our party was in a good club, with first class catering, music etc.

    I came back to Canada to prepare everything for her immigration. I hired a law firm specialized in Immigration and for a year and a half I supported all her family, sending monthly the money for the rent and utilities plus an allowance of 700 dollars for food and necessities. I also left 6 thousand dollars in a joint account for her for emergencies. To be quite honest, my original plan was to buy the house I had rented, so we would have a place to stay when visiting her family and also the family would have a decent, clean, comfortable place to live.

    One day, she called frantically. She said the boy had an emergency, he was in hospital and they were going to do an emergency operation, but the hospital required a deposit. I immediately sent the money via Western Union and was very apprehensive about the boy’s health.

    When I left Davao, I left with her professional photography and filming equipment, a top of the line Apple computer, some expensive clothing and a gave her a HP laptop, printer etc. I also bought 3 pure breed certified German Shepperd dogs from a reputable dog breeder.
    Well my friends, I told her to get ready that I was going to the Phils to marry her, to pick her up and (I was going to buy the house, 7 million pesos, it would be a surprise for her). She asked me to wait a bit for her to get organized and I said, OK.

    Two days before Christmas, she called me, crying and saying that she could no longer bear the feelings of guilt and was feeling awful, because she was lying to me all the time from the very beginning. I asked, what are you talking about? She said, “after you left Davao, I was feeling lonely and I missed sex. I met a Filipino guy (which incidentally is a pimp, scammer and a drug dealer) he got me pregnant and my family forced him to marry me. I have a second son now. Her words echo in my ears to this day. I don’t think I will ever forget this, it will never have a closure. As a Christian, I forgave her but it is beyond me to forget this ordeal.. Never mind my financial losses, that were substantial. But the whole episode badly hurt my trust in human beings.
    She told me her true story. She said she was a sex addict and between 14 and 16 years of age she had sex with dozens and dozens of adult men (some paid her), many married, even a lawyer.
    Her full name is DEBORAH GRACE D”ALODO DIAO FRANCO, please check on Google, I published this story on Google. She lives in Dipolog City with the husband now. Dipolog in in Zamboanga del Norte. Please also check “Major Investigation on 26 scammer girls, please help”. Look on that site, I wrote some articles for them, I had a blog on that site. I signed the name “Daniel Chermont”. I left the site 6 months ago, but the blog is still there. I helped the site to remove at least half of the 26 girls and uncover some gangs, a real professional operation, that was plaguing their site. Look for “blogs” and look for “Daniel Chermont”.

    When I arrived in Davao, I had two jumbo suitcases. One was full of gifts for her and her family and clothing, toys etc, for her baby. My heart full of hope, my mind full of dreams. After this I felt like God had forsaken me. I asked myself “Why”?

    I learned my lesson the hard way. The lesson here is that one should never take anything for granted. I do not tell this story to ask for pity or sympathy. I am a grown up man and once again I survived thanks to God. However I urge all of you to exercise extreme caution with girls in dating sites. If they ask you for money, report them immediately. Beware of sad stories and “emergencies” (my father needs an emergency operation, my grandma passed away and we don’t have money for the funeral etc… 99% of the time is a lie, it is “scam ahoy”.
    I feel I will end my days alone. In the country were I was born we say “better alone than in bad company”. I am OK. I gave up sex, I am not a promiscuous person and I hate the bar scene and I would never hire a prostitute. I believe in the teachings of Paul, the Christian Evangelist, that once wrote to the Corinthians “to live a filthy, lustful, sinful, immoral life not approved by the Lord, we are better of living chaste and alone”. That is what I do.
    Don’t let my words discourage you. Christian Filipina is an excellent dating site and the owners are true Christians and DO care for their reputation, their business and well being of their clients. I hope you guys have better luck than me. God bless you all. May the peace, immense love and mercy of the Lord be always upon you and your families and each and every day of your lives.

    Comment by Bira — November 25, 2012 @ 1:41 am

  52. When you are in an internet dating site browsing Filipino girls and you spot a breath taking beauty this should be your first warning, the first thing you should be suspicious. I will be repetitive, MOST girls are petite and cute, but I have seen no beauties there. I am sure they exist, beautiful, average and ugly woman exist in any country, not to mention that the old saying is true “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”.


    In the Philippines, the people you see in the streets, even the best areas, in the beaches, malls, fancy resorts etc, are very pleasing, pretty, but not astonishingly beautiful. These really beautiful girls you see in dating sites, are usually junior, obscure, unknown rookie models or the pic of some beautiful girl “transplanted” from Facebook or a Fashion Magazine, always keep that in mind. The first sign that something is wrong, is when you ask her to see her on cam. She will find 1001 excuses not to go on cam or tell you that she does not have a computer and the net cafe will charge extra from a computer with a cam. A big lie, right there. People that get a computer in the net cafe with a cam, is on a “first come first served basis” and the average cost is 25 cents per hour. Very reasonable, even for Filipinos.

    How does she explain her hair with a obvious good fancy cut, facial, cosmetics, brand name clothes and shoes etc, far beyond the reach of the average Filipina, that can only dream to go to a SPA or shop in trendy malls and at the same time she claims that she does not have 25 cents for one hour computer session? This is classical, right there she will tell you that she does not have the means to afford keeping chatting with you, even though she is VERY interested in you, unless you can send her few dollars for her internet expenses. Don’t believe a single word, my friend, she is testing you, and this is the first step to start to “milk you”. A common line is “I am very shy to ask you for help, but I am not employed right now and have no income and can not afford the internet cafe fees”… “I need very little, 50 dollars will do… The reality, is that she is using the same line with a dozen guys, and this is pure math, if half send her 50 bucks, she got right there 300 dollars. This will pay for her rent and a month worth of food … and her cell phone too.

    Mistrust immediately girls that in the 2nd or second chat call you “mahal ko” (“my love”) or “you are the guy I have been waiting for all my life.” Is quite unlikely. Maybe I am cynical or it is all the result what I have seen in my life, but I do not believe in the so called “love at first sight”. Specially, based on a picture alone.

    I noticed in many net cafes, hairy chubby Filipino 40 ish men or ugly middle aged women typing a girl’s name on the screen or a couple, obviously GF and BF, typing also a girl name in the screen. I guess on the other side of the Ocean, there was a foreigner madly in love with his “Filipino Princess”.

    If they already start to talk in the first chat that nobody is working at home, “scam ahoy”, for sure she will ask you money for groceries or rent very soon, claiming that they are starving and the landlord will evict them. In reality, she is “cooking you” and feeling for how much you are worth.

    If she has a child (usually they ask for money for baby formula, that is very expensive in the Phils, the price is obscene) or siblings, bet that soon a devastating disease is on the way (requiring a long hospital stay and costly diagnostic exams, MRI. CT Scan, blood works etc) or surgery. She will certainly tell you that the doctor says that the prognosis is really bad and the patient will succumb in the next few days if he/she did not get the life saving treatment. This is also a classical trick. You are looking at hundreds of dollars. The only problem, is that there is room for that to be real. In the Phils, if you have no money, you die in the street like a dog. In North America our pets get much better treatment than humans there.

    Speak very little about your real financial situation, to avoid greedy ones to target you. Say little. You can say that you have a stable financial situation, but do not try to impress her saying that you have a million or two in assets. It will backfire. It does not work this way. Humans are just that, humans.

    Accidents or major life threatening diseases are common in the 3rd or fourth chat. It is true that Filipino hospitals could not care less if the person will die for lack of medical care, if they can not pay the bill. Either you provide a deposit or a good credit card, or you are on the way to Heavens, my friend. However, demand that she gives you the telephone of the hospital, the full name of the patient, address of the hospital (check in the net) the attending doctor, double check EVERYTHING, before you send her even 50 dollars if you decide to do so. My advice? Don’t send a penny. 95 % of the time, is a scam, just using heavy duty emotional blackmail.

    It is very common 3 generations of the same family living in the same house. There is always someone being born, sick or dying. It is difficult to say no, if someone tell you that grandma just died and they do not have money for the funeral.

    Most of the time, I suspect is a dirty lie. They put a lot of pressure on you, saying that the body is in a filthy morgue, the stories are nightmarish. Then again, ask for the telephone of the morgue funeral home or whatever. Double check in the internet. Confirm that they have the body of Mr. or Mrs so and so. Even this is not guaranteed not to be a scam. The whole thing can be staged and they are trying to frame you.

    Another common trick, is to ask money for a passport, NBI clearance and a CENOMAR clearance (Bureau of Statistics, that will issue an official document stating that your girl is not married, the equivalent to a marriage license in North America). The whole thing, including passport pics, should cost 100 dollars. Beware of stories like “I have to go to a major city to do this, and my mom or my aunt will go with me, and there will be expenses with traveling, hotel etc). Sounds fishy, they are getting ready to squeeze 300 dollars from you.

    Keep in mind, that the vast majority of the Filipino people, even though they are facing insurmountably serious problems, are honest, decent, proud and really are looking for someone to marry and have a family. Just few decades ago, Filipinas were rated perhaps the best wives of the world, honest, loyal, totally dedicated to her husband s and children, ready to die for her family. If you are blessed getting a good girl there, you will be rewarded with an excellent wife, a good mother for your children and a friend for life.

    If after a reasonable time of chatting, seeing her on cam, talking on the phone, seeing pics of her family etc, you want to have peace of mind, hire a reputable private eye and run a check on her. If you are really considering to really marry the girl or the lady, better to spend few dollars in a reputable private investigation agency than to be scammed for thousands of dollars. Try to get references, even some of these agencies are fakes and run by scammers themselves. Once everything is fine, go there, and check everything by yourself. Make a surprise trip and get there when least expected…

    I wish you all the very best and luck in your endeavors. There are still a lot of good people left in the world, the challenge is to be lucky and blessed and locate them. Don’t give up. Just use common sense to stay clear from the crooks. Keep the bad girls at bay.

    Comment by Bira — December 2, 2012 @ 12:43 am

  53. thanks for this article i have been hit up a few times by these scammers and it is just as you say

    Comment by allan gaskins — December 2, 2012 @ 11:57 am

  54. That’s it! the Article of the Dating Site, is good..for both woman and man who are seeking and searching for their right mate. In Biblical point of view, chose a woman or man who’s after God’s heart..and being a christian, be sensitive also to listen the First small voice of the HOLY SPIRIT, that could be add a big plus for searching the right mate. GOD BLESS YOU..Guys! don’t be afraid for searching? GOD is there..
    Regards: Rusana from Philippines

    Comment by Rusana — December 23, 2012 @ 6:29 am

  55. i feel so sorry of what i have just read about scammers first time i learn all about these. more so that they mention about mindanao and it happened i used my address in zamboanga city which actually my business address. i have a small fishing business there but my reall address is in taguig city. i already some heard some stories about it but no knowlege how they can perpetuate the crime. they deceived and fool people so to me it’s a crime.
    my only concern is for the sake of some filipinas like me who are truly searching for someone to spend our life afraid all of us filipinas were already prejudge especially here in mindanao area. for god’s sake i beg to disagree and it is so UNFAIR!

    Comment by rosette — December 25, 2012 @ 7:42 am

  56. I was scammed by a girl named Cristina Barcarse ( site Filipinaheart ) . She just wanted to get into the USA. She got married 2 times in less than 14 months to 2 Americans while I had her paperwork in process to bring her into the USA. AT 3 years she left for no good reason. INS is now after her. Who knows for sure where she is at. But if she is caught she is in deportation for marriage fraud.

    Comment by Tom — December 28, 2012 @ 10:19 am

  57. Hi there…am new to this blog thing of CF and it’s good to know that through this, everyone is given the chance to express their minds to some issues. Since, it’s vacation from work, I take this opportunity to read some of the comments of the members of some blogs.

    Today, I happen to read about scammers and fraud dating. I really feel for the victims. I know it is never easy to be betrayed by a person whom you thought honest enough that you’ve given your trust…so much that you give up everything for her. I am also saddened of the idea that the culprits were all filipinas…I must say that everyone must have learned his lesson the difficult way but somehow we have to bear in mind that not in every lesson learned…a new you will be born again…a new person who is wiser, more intelligent and more critical.
    …a piece of advice: Do not be driven by a pretty face. See the character that’s within. Try it…!:)

    Comment by Jessica — December 28, 2012 @ 8:55 pm

  58. I met a seemingly wonderful lady on this site. Without knowing anything about her a Filipino pastor scolded me for entertaining a relationship with a Filipina. He said he knows his culture and even Christian Filipinas want to marry foreigners for the wrong reasons. So I trusted this pastor and cancelled a trip I had planned to meet her and her family. I later had second thoughts about it and reversed my decision. I am to meet her in about three weeks. My part so far has been to book and pay for round trip air fare in the Philippines to meet her family. She and her aunt are to travel with me. She claims to be totally in love with me and is now constantly talking about marriage. I never gamble because I learned that gamblers always loose in the end. However this is either the real thing or I am the biggest dope to hit the internet. Incidentally, she has directed me to Yahoo Messenger where we communicate on a daily basis. The advantage is less problems with cam connections. The disadvantage is no monitoring by CF. ???????????? Am I a man of God led by His Spirit or just an old fool who will have a lot of explaining to do to his church very shortly? Will I blessed for life or learn the hard way?

    Comment by Jerry — December 29, 2012 @ 10:33 am

  59. thanks for publishing these. just recently i got taken for a thousand $. that doesn’t sound like much but it was more than everything i had. I’ve been alone a long time and in my desperation i was a stupid and easy mark, life was going to change with my new wife and mother for my kids. after being on mu own so long all the right words made me feel good. well it changed all right … christmas was ruined and my kids cried for hours sitting in an airport waiting for someone who never arrived. My faith is shot and i fear that my happiness may never return.

    Comment by pat — December 29, 2012 @ 10:42 am

  60. @Jerry (Comment 58) December 29, 2012 @ 10:33 am
    “She and her aunt are to travel with me. She claims to be totally in love with me…”

    Why and where will you be traveling with her aunt or even her?
    How can someone be “totally in love” without physically meeting?

    I don’t agree with your pastor to judge all people even if they are from the same culture. Everyone is unique. But this lady appears to be scamming you, in my opinion. I’m reminded of what I’ll call the “bring a friend/translator with us to the fanciest restaurants” scam. I think we all are gamblers in some sense and I would even bet that she will marry you. What level of “being taken” will you tolerate? Someone posted how a lady scammed him after 16 years. I doubt that one was biding her time for 16 years.

    If I were you, I would definitely go to the Philippines to meet her family, but also take the advice of CF and meet a few others at the same time. One mistake I made when I was younger was to not really “date” and instead “go steady” too quickly.

    Personally I don’t see a problem with communicating outside of CF. But you still have to guard your heart.

    Comment by D — January 2, 2013 @ 10:42 am

  61. Abegail Joy (user 113787) another scammer

    jessiemercado95: Bruce..u dont need to come and get me here for me to come to you in the USA…a good friend of mine are there..because his partner provide all the things she need to get a tourist come to the USA..and once she is there..they get 2 months time..while..the visa is still ok…
    jessiemercado95: On that way…we can save so much Money and its not too cost too much to do that..on that way…cause the expenses will be that we will pay the agency who do all the paper works and payments of the visa and passport..for me to come to you..thats if U wanted this like this way
    poolbruce: they want photos together
    jessiemercado95: I am a Tourist Visa not a Fiancee Visa..
    jessiemercado95: cause Fiancee visa it takes 2 years to get approved
    jessiemercado95: Tourist visa its easy to get and faster to get..
    poolbruce: ok, what is needed?
    jessiemercado95: I want to tell you..also..Are you serious u wanted me to come to you

    Comment by bruce — January 2, 2013 @ 1:42 pm

  62. Thanks Bruce and others for posting these examples for others to learn to recognize the kind of stories that are being told. As a reminder for all our members, (1) it is not possible for a Filipina to get a tourist visa to the USA; (2) it is against our terms of service to send money to someone you have not yet met in person, or to ask for another person to send money to you; (3) if you ever are tempted to do this, call us immediately at 800 578 1469 (424 253 0604 from outside USA/Canada) before you do it.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — January 2, 2013 @ 4:00 pm

  63. I am happy married with a filipina for 3 years now BUT like a lots of you i got scam before and i have learn the hard way also. It is not always a question of money but the pain in your heart when you discover the truth. I join an anti-scammer site since then and it is all about the asian scammers and from Philippines. A good way it is to tell your story to help others not to be scam by the same person. I invite you to look at this site: hope you permit me to post this link: www dragonladies dot org.









    Comment by donald private — January 5, 2013 @ 7:07 pm

  64. Hi Donald, Thanks for sharing your experience and suggestions. We have also linked to dragonladies site in the past and think it is a useful resource for our members.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — January 5, 2013 @ 7:41 pm

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