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Do Filipinas Love Children?

Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him. – Psalm 127:3

Filipinas Love Children

Filipinas Love Children

Filipinas love children. In fact, they are great with kids; they treasure every moment with any child. They smile at kids passing by, and they make conversations with them too. For every Filipina, a child is a gift from God- a child who deserves to be nurtured, loved and cared for.

Yet given the weak Philippine economy, environmental problems, and low standards of living, some Filipinas are cautious to give birth and raise children. They have a fear that they might not be able to provide the needs that their future children deserve.

Nevertheless, 99% of all Filipinas think it is obvious that having a child with her husband is always her dream no matter how difficult. Simply said, for her, having a child is the essence of womanhood. A Filipina woman’s mind may say: I don’t think having a child right now is a good decision; but a Filipina woman’s heart will always say: I wish to have a lot of children – I know that will make me complete. She knows that if she allows the challenges to stop her from having a family with children, that she is missing out on one of the things that is at once her desire and her way to give back to the world, the purpose and joy of her life.

The Philippine government for over ten years has been considering various legislation related to these issues, known as Reproductive Health (RH) Bill(s). These consider support for responsible parenthood. Through this, every family may be counseled on how many kids they should be having, how many years should be the gap of each child from their siblings, and when the best time of having them might be. In the historically Catholic country, this encouragement to find a compromise on these questions is slower to find support than in many Western countries where this type of education and the associated services are more readily available. We try not to get into questions of politics and don’t have a position on whether it should be law or not. We are just relating this for you on an informational basis.

Having a child now may be a struggle or a risk, but who won’t be brave enough to face the risks in receiving God’s greatest gift: the gift of life? The life of a child is a gift- a gift that every person would always want.

So, if you are considering settling down with a Filipina, it is quite likely that she likes children and will want to have children. Nevertheless, having children is an important consideration, and you should not make assumptions about it just because you think you know what each other are thinking. To be responsible, it is important to talk about these kinds of issues even if you suspect you know what the other person might say.

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  1. I think your article is overly optimistic and somewhat unrealistic.

    Let’s say that the smiles visited upon kids by adults here is a covering for many quietly desperate mothers who more often than not have no father for their kids, nor money by which to support and feed them. That many of these mothers don’t go lokaloka under such pressure from family, government and church is a minor miracle.

    You fail to disclose the mercenary and other harsh sides of pinay with their children.

    Filipinos are a complicated people however much they often insist that they are simple. As for children, having many also means there are many to help farm the land or fish the sea. As well, children of often brought into the world to help secure a stable old age: just as the mother (and sometimes father) has sacrificed for the kids, when the mother gets older then it’s an obligation for the children in return to sacrifice for her. If the kids wee lucky enough to get an education, then they may be able to get steady work, altho that isn’t easy. If work in the Philippines is hard to get, then they may go abroad to finance the family. And so having many children is a kind of hope-ridden obligatory contract, not only with God (as surely God will provide (bahala na)), but also within the family and community structure.

    Yet, as you say in your last paragraph, it IS vitally important to talk about all important topics before you become committed in any way. As well, there are many filipinas who are ok without children, as long as they get a man ‘with a good heart.’

    Comment by Bruce — July 4, 2012 @ 3:50 pm

  2. Although I agree that children are extremely important, and Filipinos do have very close relationships with children, what is lacking is balance. When any human being, adult or child, is placed upon a pedestal the balance is lost. Here in the Philippines children have been so elevated that parents are reluctant to discipline their children. Yes, children are a blessing from the Lord, but they are not the head of household and there are numerous Bible verses that clearly show parents are to teach discipline. I am appalled by the behaviors of many children in public places and the parent’s refusal to properly discipline inappropriate behavior. Many parents never even say “no” to the unruly child.

    Before you marry any Filipina that already has children, I strongly suggest that you discuss your role as the head of the household and her willingness to work with you when discipline of the children becomes necessary. The three factors that couples will have strong opinions and disagreements about are: the buck (money), the bed (sexual relations) and the brood (children); such differences can spell disaster for any relationship if you do not fully discuss your feelings regarding the big three.

    Comment by David Hall — July 4, 2012 @ 5:12 pm

  3. While it is admirable and accepting that God rewards us with children one should take note that Children are a great responsibility. It is obious that with the economy in the Philippines is not good that one should plan how will they support the needs of a child. I do not just mean food, shelter and clothing. Other expenses that come up. Medical, education, etc, etc.
    I am married to a pinay and while I love her and the family I can see that only one of the children ever got a college degree. The other three were not so fortunate.
    IN my personal experience I have voulteered financial help to her family since they are poor and have needed the help. I do not begrudge helping when I can. Still in one instance the child(grown up)lied to me to get money. I feel bad about it and will not again help her out because I will not ever know it is really needed or just want the money.

    Comment by George A. Rosell — July 4, 2012 @ 6:45 pm

  4. This a very interesting article and one close to my heart. Here in Ireland of the year 2012 all family values have been lost. I am old enough to remember a time when it was expected of the children (usually the daughter) to look after the parents in their old age. This was done willingly. Now-a-days it is a case of thrown them into a nursing home anf forget about them. Nursing homes didn’t even exist until 15 years ago. Like the Filipinas family values were very important and children played a huge part in those loyalties. It was considered an honour and a privelge to take care of your children and your elderly, sadly today it is condidered an unwanted choir, something that get in the way of having a good (Materialistic) life. This is the main reason I am moving the The Philippines.

    Comment by Ger Roche — October 10, 2012 @ 1:25 pm

  5. I definitely agree that children are gifts from God. Rearing children requires great courage and responsibility. Although, I might say that there are really parents who do not know their responsibilities towards their children. As a mother, it is up to us, parents, how we take care our children, the way how we bring them up to become responsible. I beg to disagree to the comment that Filipinos are complicated people. Not all Filipinos are like this. Irregardless of one’s nationality, if that is the attitude…that is. As how we brought up by our parents… we really make sure that in times of need, we help one another.
    And again, rearing children is the parents’ responsibility. It’s up to them later on if they will take care of their aging parents…but if they grow up responsibly, they will. It is not a requirement for them to throw back whatever the parents have done to them.

    Comment by Connie — October 16, 2012 @ 12:44 am

  6. I read your article about planning the number of children you have and first we must look at a few things. We are christian so we must examine our responsibilities to our country in this case the Philippines. Will we be able to provide food and raise them to a decent standard? Is it fair or normal to have 10 or 12, but to give every one a fair chance we should all have lower numbers of children? Maybe 2 or 3, and those who want more, will be charged a fine? It costs the government money, and we dont want children hungry, and yes this is curtailing rights, but that’s the problem the country is in population way above food levels so scientific planning respecting community religious values and civil rights. We dont like to do this but the situation is urgent and the government can set up church councils if people feel comfortable there, or city councils, to deal with these restrictions. Congestion causes scarce food and ecological problems, and lowers the wealth per person and decreases living standards and incoming investment. I think the best approach is through taxation, as a means test, and responsibility, and this is a good way of nation building. This is my view…scientific planning with a christian reflection on values…

    Comment by anthony marinelli — November 11, 2012 @ 4:23 pm

  7. After reading the post and the comments… First and foremost, I would like to thank Bruce for giving the best example which is the Kind of Love given by a Filipina mother to it’s child/ren. This is the reason why I (& others as well) can say that “Almost all of us” Filipinas love children. Because Bruce noted here & on “What are Filipino families like” post that even if the mother doesn’t have the father for its kid/s at her side, saddled with poverty & is under pressure from it’s family – The mother stays with it’s child/ren & will do “anything” to support it’s child/ren.
    Moving forward to David Hall, I’m Sorry but I believe that you are only referring to approximately 10% of the children here (small percentage). To George Russell, We’re Sorry if that is what you’ve got in helping the child, Thank you for helping them & for being Understanding.
    And before I end this, Just like Connie I believe that Bruce is mistaken in saying that “Filipinos are a complicated people however much they often insist that they are simple”… either he forgot to include the word “some of” at the beg of his statement, doesn’t really know the meaning of complicated people or has very bad experience in the past that cause him to react this way & if this is the case, Once more, Sorry.

    Comment by Nestle — November 22, 2012 @ 10:00 am

  8. having been married to a filipina, and raised two boys, a man can never ever appreciate any woman whether she be filipino, or other, as to the love she shares with her children, only one point i make is, that as more children come into ones family, the further you, the husband , is pushed back, this happens to often, and in cases the guy goes elsewhere for love that he does not get at home, this is not a beat up of any family woman, but in general, ask any man, yes?but i would not marry anyone else but a filipina….john hall

    Comment by john hall — December 15, 2012 @ 5:29 am

  9. I can say about my experience of my trip to the Philippines:
    1- The nicest people that I have ever met in my life in general; wow I was so happy around them.
    2-I have no complaints at all, everybody was so wonderful.
    3- We need to respect if they want to have children as long as they are happy, why not?. It is called freedom!.
    4-Now I live in USA but I want to live there and be happy also…
    5- Thank you everyone from the Philippines for being soo sweet. SALAMAT

    Comment by Alej — December 15, 2012 @ 7:31 am

  10. If we yes to RH bill,the ten commandments of God who created us,by and by all people no respect this.W

    Comment by Alejandra Bernal — December 15, 2012 @ 9:10 am

  11. 99% of Filipinas want to have children? it’s their essence of womanhood? it completes them?? CLEARLY the author of this article chose that statistic with NO research whatsoever.
    Statistics from major studies all show that number to be in the 83-90% range.

    This type of writing is irresponsible! WHERE DID THE AUTHOR GET THIS STATISTIC? Either quote your source, state it as your own opinion or retract it.

    There are Filipinas who don’t feel compelled to have children. I’m dating one now, and I met her on this site. She is a loving, well-adjusted, educated professional woman who feels her life can be complete with or withOUT having children.

    Comment by Todd — December 15, 2012 @ 2:44 pm

  12. I like what this article said about children are gift from God..but we have to closely understand of what apostle Paul said in….1 Timothy 5:8
    8 “But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.”
    God instituted the family but He doesn’t like us to be irresponsible of what He has given to us..many have abandoned their children and God does not like….

    Comment by ashley — December 16, 2012 @ 4:22 am

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