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Patience in Dating Women From the Philippines

“So Jacob worked seven years to pay for Rachel. But his love for her was so strong that seemed to him but a few days.” -Genesis 29:20

It is true that quality Filipina women are not easy to get. In fact, because of Philippine customs and traditions, they are shy and conservative. Filipina women are not liberal: they are imbued with Asian and Christian values. Do not expect that the dating stage will be short.  Our tip for you if you are considering dating a woman from the Philippines: patience.

A Filipina appreciating the small things his boyfriend does for her but she does not show any hint of her appreciation.


So do not give up at once if the woman you would like to meet does not show immediate strong signs of affection for you. Rather, always remember that Filipina women appreciate the small things you do even if you do not sense it immediately. Give it a little more time, and continue your effort during the courting stage.

Remember, a lifelong soulmate may be one where the affection begins slowly and develops for a long time. Don’t turn away in discouragement if the first time you speak with someone you are unsure that she is interested. Consider whether you seem to have shared values and compatible lifestyles. If so, contact her again and be friendly.

You can start each time by saying some nice things to her casually. Eventually you can invite her to share some meals together in public with her family member or friend. Later you will be able to finally meet her family in their homes. Then if all goes well she might begin at that point to be warming up to you.

If things go too quickly, the reality is that it is not necessarily a good sign. Your best bet is to take your time slowly getting to know each other.

All of these risks and sacrifices will be worth it someday. It may take weeks, months, or even years; but the result will be a strong relationship for good that can and will endure.

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  1. Well,after reading this tip on patience when dating a filipino, i was richly blessed and enlightend. I really appreciate your true commitment at helping true christians find true love on this site. Thanks and God bless.

    Comment by Akingboye franklin — August 15, 2012 @ 1:36 pm

  2. I agree! As they say, patience is a virtue. Dating a Pinay can be difficult but once you get their affection, all your hardwork will be worth it.

    Comment by BonggaHere — September 25, 2012 @ 12:25 am

  3. attitude is the most important to strong relationship

    Comment by mae — November 6, 2012 @ 6:38 am

  4. I’m showing interest in a Filipina who seems to be very affectionate with me in only a month of conversations. She ” loves ” me and ” misses ” me so much and often misses me in only a short amount of time not corresponding or calling. Very affectionate don’t you think ?

    She always seems to need money. The Pharmacy’s in the Phils don’t sell over the counter medicine ( tylenol, advil, bayer ) without a prescription from a doctor so she needs cash to visit a doctor to buy meds–so she tells me not long ago. I sent her no money. Still she loves me so very much and wants us to keep talking.

    I’m certain she is more interested in my giving her money than she is in my reciprocating to her love. I have not said to her “LOVE” for me it’s too soon. It is not that I’m unwillimg to take care of a woman especially if she is a Homemaker in my home, my Wife would’nt need to ask.

    So is it possible that with TIME, PATIENCE, and SACRIFICE this Filipina who seems to be only interested in money will become the woman I need. Or am I dreaming ?

    Comment by JIM — December 2, 2012 @ 1:43 pm

  5. Hi Jim,

    She is lying to you about the need for a doctor’s prescription. Your instincts are correct: this is a dead end. Cease contact with anyone who is dishonest with you, including this one; ban the user, and if report the user# to the site owner so that the profile can be suspended. It seems that since you have never upgraded on our site based on your email address submitted with your comment, perhaps you met her elsewhere, but the same advice applies. There are thousands of sincere ladies on our site, and we would be happy to have you as an upgraded member here so that you can meet some of them.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — December 2, 2012 @ 1:59 pm

  6. And here I was thinking maybe I could change her. No, I hadn’t met her on Christian Filipina. It was the other site, rhymes with FAIRY….tales. Many of the women on that site are beautiful, can’t help but become enamored, all too often many of them repeatedly ask for money. It’s as if you are viewed as an ATM machine rather than a love machine.

    I believed her story about the typhoon damaging her home and she having to stay in an evac center for over 5 days with her mom who was becoming ill from staying there. I read the report, a typhoon did hit the Phils month Oct, in her area, Bacoor Cavite. She needed the advance for rent on a new place. She explained to me, Phil government is doesn’t have anything like a FEMA, and is hard on people after a natural disaster. Wasn’t any outrageous amount and I lost my Mom to an illness three years ago. When I think back on it, she may not have even lived in the area that sustained the worst of the storm.

    I’m running short on patience that I’ll ever find any woman on any dating site who is actually sincere and well….not money hungry. I have yet to contact any woman who has a profile on CF. I’m a little wary but hopeful.

    Comment by JIM — December 3, 2012 @ 8:22 pm

  7. Hi Jim, You are on the right track now, since you are talking to others about what is going on for you. This is one of the great things about our site: through our advice articles, online help chat, email, and by calling our 800 number you can talk to us. We are professionals at what we do. When you are ready, you will know that you have to plan a trip to the Philippines before committing to any one person. Once you recognize that key point, then you will be ready to accept our other advice (meet 5 people as friends on our site, and then fly to meet them all in person, before settling on 1 who you know is special to you). Only after that will the original subject of this advice article – Patience in Dating Filipinas – become relevant. Then once you have met those 5 in person, and know which one is special to you, then you can spend more time with her. Eventually we believe it will work out for you like it has for hundreds of other couples who have met on our site.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — December 3, 2012 @ 9:13 pm

  8. There was a Category 5 typhoon today Dec 4, 2012 in the Philippines killing at least 74, the last I heard.

    What a sad situation. What should my prayer be? Dear God, please let there be no “emergencies” between me and my new friend until I can trust her?

    Regarding the blog topic, how long a visit is realistic between “You can start…you can invite her…Later you will be able to finally meet her family in their homes…warming up to you.”

    I get about 2 weeks paid vacation. For this to work, it seems like I’d have to move to the Philippines for 6 months minimum, just to meet and really develop a relationship?

    I think our host lives in Hawaii. That was a distant dream of mine when I was much younger and not even thinking about marriage or dating. Airline flights are also about 25% the cost from where I live to the Philippines (compared to Hawaii to the Philippines). Even if we get married, I would expect the lady to become homesick if she was not able to visit her family, even if she states she is willing to relocate.

    I know it can be done, but what are some realistic scenarios leading to marriage?

    Comment by D — December 4, 2012 @ 1:09 pm

  9. Hi D,

    Yes typhoons are tragic, and our prayers are with those who have been hurt by this typhoon Pablo and any typhoon. If you want to help financially, we direct you to the Red Cross of the Philippines at where you can click Donate from the top menu.

    To answer your question, while six months is a great amount of time to spend in the Philippines if you are able to, it is not necessary. If you follow our recommendation and plan a trip to meet about five people as friends first during your first week, then leave yourself one week to spend with the one lady with whom you share the most important values, then 2 weeks is a minimum advised trip. Of course the more time you can spend there the better. Getting married in the Philippines often takes one to two months, which is part of the reason many people choose instead to become engaged and then apply for a fiance visa to their home country.

    Don’t worry, you don’t need to spend 6 months. What we are trying to get across in this article is that if you meet someone in person and she is shy the first time you sit down together, don’t assume it is not meant to be. If you have shared values and you like her, then call her back and invite her to meet you a few more times. Keep interacting with her in that first meal, be friendly, don’t expect her to jump right into your arms or give you lengthy explanations to all your questions; it’s not usually a good sign if she does. If she is holding her hands in her lap or her hand near her mouth and looks slightly nervous and slightly happy at the same time, recognize that’s a good sign. In even just 7 days a shy person will begin to open up. The mistake is when men assume a shy lady does not like them, and in contrast to that get too excited about someone else who is more confident in the first meeting even if they do not have shared values.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — December 4, 2012 @ 3:56 pm

  10. Jim you seemed to be a good guy.You deserve a good wife.=)

    Comment by Ann — February 1, 2013 @ 12:42 am

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