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Things You Should Never, Ever, Ever Do

We have said most of this before in previous blogs, but once again we have to remind our members about some of our most important recommendations.  Here is what you should not do, and what else to do instead.

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Never Send Money To Any Online Contact You Have Not Met In Person, Or To Any Third Party

Our site is the best site for meeting sincere Christians in Asia. We have thousands of members who join every month from dozens of countries around the world. Most of them are sincere people. However, every day we have insincere, and even outright malicious persons who join our site to attempt to defraud others and take advantage of them.  We have learned many of the patterns of these kinds of people, and when we review every new profile and every profile change, we permanently suspend all that we find to be inappropriate.  In addition, when one of them slips past our review, our members alert us to it when they notice something suspicious.  So we have the fewest percentage of insincere and criminal members of any dating site we know of.  But in case you are ever asked to send money to someone you met through our site (or any site), before you meet in person, you absolutely should not do it.  Nor should you send money to a “travel agent”, “visa service”, “package delivery service”, or any other third party.  These are all scams.  If you are ever asked to do this from someone you met on our site, or are ever tempted to send money for any reason, do not do it.  What you should do instead is to immediately inform us, by sending us an email, and telling us the user number of the person who asked for money, and sending us any communication that might help us understand the situation.

Never Ask For Money From Another Person You Have Not Met In Person

When our members join the site, they agree to our terms of service.  Our terms state that it is against our rules to solicit money from anyone else on the site.  If you are reported for violating these terms, we will suspend your account, and we will not allow you to open another account.  Instead, you should make sure that you never ask any other member of our site to send money to you or to anyone else.  Our site is for making friends, and we believe new friends do not ask each other for money.

Never Fall In Love With Someone You Have Not Met In Person

We have stated clearly in our suggestions that our site is for meeting friends.  We are very happy to have singles join our site, and we do hope that many will go from being friends to committed husband and wife.  Indeed, we have received hundreds of testimonials from members who have met on our site and now have joined as husband and wife.  But we suggest that you should not rush the process. Do not try to find the cheapest, quickest way to get married.  It will be more expensive and more painful in the long run if you misprioritize this.   Instead, what we recommend is that you meet and get to know as friends 3-10 people as friends from our site.  Then meet as many of them as possible in person as friends before you consider which indeed shares your values well enough to spend more time together.  For many of our men, this might mean taking an extra trip, as we find that our men tend to be the ones who can and do travel when meetings actually take place.  But in the long run, taking the extra time is going to be worth it.  Or if you have enough time, you can take a very long first trip.  For our ladies, our advice is also to not fall in love, or even be committed to, people they have not met in person.  Absolutely encourage each other to prioritize a personal meeting, but we do not encourage you to ask each other to be exclusive before meeting in person.  Take it slowly.  Be 100% honest.  When the time comes, after you have met in person, that might be a time to talk about being exclusive if you are ready for it and have shared values. But until you have met in person, don’t fall in love.  Friends first.

Never Give Up Without Contacting Us With Your Concerns First

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A customer service representative helping you in addressing your concerns and ready in giving pieces of advice

When our members cancel their accounts, we ask them to fill our a small form so we know their reasons for canceling.  Often, it’s because they have met their special someone.  Sometimes, however, it’s because they have a concern.  Anything from being contacted by a scammer, or because they saw a man’s picture by mistake in the women’s section, or because their computer wasn’t able to log in sometimes, or because they feel our fees for upgraded memberships are not what they expected.  If you ever have a concern like this – or any other concern – please contact us. Use the feedback form at the bottom of any page of the main site.  Or from US/Canada call us up toll-free at 800-578-1469 and talk to us, the owners of the site. We rely on feedback from our members to help maintain the site.  It’s a group effort, and it’s thanks to our members that the site is #1 for Christian dating in Asia.

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  1. this is one of the best website in finding partners in life as what the blog site tells what the best to do..good luck to all new searchers and include me to find the right one for us.!good luck om this site

    Comment by prescila ladera — March 2, 2011 @ 3:48 am

  2. never trust a phlipino

    Comment by Bernard Gannon — March 2, 2011 @ 4:01 am

  3. The people who run this site will surly help every one in every way they can, and i know this because they have helped me.

    I would recommend this site to any one because on this site 99% of the ladies are [[[ not ]]] scammers…


    Comment by Michael Searching — March 2, 2011 @ 4:02 am

  4. Its nice suggestion,u are so concerned about ur mmembers situation,thanx & GOD BLESS to all of us.

    Comment by — March 2, 2011 @ 4:24 am

  5. this site is good..i hope i can online in free’

    Comment by maria carolin banguis — March 2, 2011 @ 5:40 am

  6. is good site and nice peple here..

    Comment by adelfa — March 2, 2011 @ 6:16 am

  7. good day, yes there is a man from U.K. who ask me to pay money for my fiance visa it almost 50,000 pesos for my visa but i said no pay ment here in com. they ask me to send by western union bank. its realy horrible its my first time here and they never stop asking me about my visa.thats all Maribel

    Comment by maribel ramos — March 2, 2011 @ 7:07 am

  8. thats my ex.thats the reason why i stop, if he is interested for my visa then he is the one to pay.for my visa i give all the ducuments they ask but when they ask about the money never responce them never.

    Comment by maribel ramos — March 2, 2011 @ 7:11 am

  9. to all ladies here in net please be carefull don’t trust to smart and never send money you don’t know.

    Comment by maribel ramos — March 2, 2011 @ 7:14 am

  10. just be careful.

    Comment by maribel ramos — March 2, 2011 @ 7:14 am

  11. God bless to all.

    Comment by maribel ramos — March 2, 2011 @ 7:15 am

  12. This is indeed a very good site. I have only been on the site about 5 months but have already had an experience with a scammer. She was a very beautiful filipina woman and a nurse. Very friendly. She was at the point of suggesting thta she travel to meet me in Alaska but only “lacked the money”. She was probably saying the same to a dozen other men. Fortunately the administrators caught and suspended her. But I wouldn’t have paid for her trip over here. I firmly believe thta the best way to do it is to travel to the P>I> and plan to spend months there meeting and geting to know up to 7 women that I have been engaged in regular and meaningful communication with for months in advance. I do plan to maary and move to the Philippines in the future though.

    Comment by John — March 2, 2011 @ 12:41 pm

  13. Yes. Don’t trust anyone you just met. All nationalities have scammers. When one says, “never trust a Filipino” that is one sweeping generalization. I don’t trust foreigners also. It takes time to know a person and that is when you meet him or her. It will take time (not sure how long it is)but loving someone is not so easy.

    Comment by yolanda — March 2, 2011 @ 2:36 pm

  14. Some people misjudge all others based on one bad experience,that could have just as well happened to them with anyone else from any other nationality as well: including their own. Open your eyes this is a Christian based website endeavor . The foundation of which is love and unity under God who is above us watching over us in love and compassion.Trust in God your first and utmost love and follow His advice as in proverbs.

    Comment by Juan — March 2, 2011 @ 11:01 pm

  15. well for me dont trust any foreigner man or woman coz i have chat a man before but he is scammers and my cousin also meet a lady online before and we thought she is a good and nice lady but sad to say that she is one of the scammers person so please all of filipina and filipino be careful to choose your partner.thank

    Comment by Angel — March 3, 2011 @ 2:46 am

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    Ok, it sure sounds right, but… what if one, for any reason, is reported for violating your rules and he/she has not done at all?…

    Comment by Jack — March 3, 2011 @ 11:22 am

  17. yes this site was very good, but i almost send money to the he is from uk his name is david jones he said he sent me packcage and i have to pay the custom in malaysia coz my parcel wsa hold by the custom and i have to pay 32thousand pesos .im glad i did not pay then whe i found out its a scam so thank you for our lord jesus christ

    Comment by carolina napoles — March 3, 2011 @ 5:16 pm

  18. Hi Jack, We have a fairly good sense of these things once we investigate a specific profile. If we don’t find there is a problem, we would not suspend the profile in the first place.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — March 3, 2011 @ 9:54 pm

  19. yes ,i dont trust anyone specially in the stranger, it take times to know her/ him
    god bless us all.

    Comment by yzha — March 5, 2011 @ 7:59 am

  20. Some1 said ‘dont trust filipino’,what ab0ut foreinger? ?scammers are everywhere,any nationalities,any religion…just be careful and be wise..DONT TRUST ANYONE!

    Comment by nene — March 6, 2011 @ 9:37 am

  21. yes i dont trust any one execpt for the one you love and him first . before you do it

    Comment by marilyn napoles — March 8, 2011 @ 8:44 pm

  22. I have read the comment of a certain Bernard Gannon saying not to trust filipino. Probably he had been a victim of a filipino. But, don’t include all filipino because not all filipino are like that.

    Comment by Lut — March 21, 2011 @ 1:07 am

  23. The folks running this site give much bang for the buck/Integrity/is the word I choose to describe Peter & his crew/they will make you a happy customer(FOUND MY Fiancee Here)

    Comment by robert earl — March 21, 2011 @ 10:49 pm

  24. I was very thankful to almighty God that he give me a very nice for me: Robert. hopefully I found my someone, thanks for this CF sites..God Bless us all

    Comment by Zyrel — March 26, 2011 @ 8:46 am

  25. Very good advice here. This is a very good website and they monitor their members carefully. But you always have to be guarded with someone you’ve never met in person.

    Comment by Marry a Filipina — March 31, 2011 @ 1:41 am

  26. Im new here hoping to find someone who wont ask me naked on cam…Im serious and no time for games..I am born Again Christian and real Christians are not scammers…GOOD LUCK…

    Comment by Zahra — April 5, 2011 @ 8:11 am

  27. im proud that i am a filipina and i am a christian what God’s wants us to wishes to everyone…love is the greatest gift of all.

    Comment by olive — April 8, 2011 @ 10:21 am

  28. who says never trust a filipino?not all are the ssame.the best thing to do is..never trust anybody that easy.

    Comment by shirley — April 16, 2011 @ 5:24 am

  29. NEVER trust a PI woman!

    Comment by Douglas — April 20, 2011 @ 8:09 am

  30. Hi Douglas, It sounds like you must have had a bad experience at some point. Sorry to hear that. However, I hope that later on you find a more optimistic way to think about things. What about Shirley’s suggestion, to never trust anybody that easy? What happened to make you so sad?

    Comment by Christian Filipina — April 20, 2011 @ 10:15 am

  31. Please…. i know it hurts to hear the truth being a filipino, but please , not all of us are bad same as other countries.

    Comment by lorina — April 29, 2011 @ 3:31 am

  32. Good advices…I think everyone now in this site has something to ponder before going into a commitment with other race!

    If guys here branded Filipino women as scammers it is either they have been fooled before or judged all Filipino women in general. These guys who are judgemental are either ignorant, idiot and bitter men. Ladies, avoid those kind of bitter guys. They’ll waste your time and even your future with him!

    Comment by Chem — May 4, 2011 @ 8:56 am

  33. I was very excited to find your website thought I might meet a special girl. Its sad to me to think their are so many dishonest people out there reguardless of race or country. Dont know what to do know.

    Comment by cameron — July 13, 2011 @ 7:17 am

  34. Hi Cameron, Welcome to our site. I’m glad you are taking the time to read our advice articles. It’s important to learn from the experience of others so as to avoid common mistakes. We have had thousands of couples who have met on our site. If you continue to read all our past blog articles, you’ll also read many more of our suggestions. And remember, you can always email or call us with your questions about any of our members or about your own situation.

    Comment by Christian Filipina — July 13, 2011 @ 9:47 am

  35. just want to say more power! to this site have a nice day! everyone.

    Comment by ivory — August 10, 2011 @ 8:44 am

  36. I am new with computers loged in 2wks ago forgot my user name and password have acouple of email address should i use all of them to get new password back cant rember which 1 i used can confirm ID anyway u want yours sincerly jeff PS just a question i find it strange when i looked at all the ages of women who say looking to meet man betewn say 35to80 and they r only 30to40 could this be a scam or is this normal as i am 57 would welcome your advice GOD BLESS U

    Comment by Jeffrey — August 17, 2011 @ 11:14 pm

  37. Yes…Scammers are all over the world…just be too careful an wise…

    Comment by Flor — October 27, 2011 @ 5:52 am

  38. Never judge a book by its cover. In any kind of friendship, on-line or in person, it takes time, patience, and effort for the friendship to blossom into a relationship. If you are a born again Christian, look for those who share your same passion for the Lord. Talk with him/her about the word of God. If they claim, from the beginning to have a passion for the Lord, their conversation will reflect this. They will have a genuine faith that will not contradict or cause reasons for doubt on your part. Over time, you will know if he/she is truly genuine or not. Don’t rush take your time in a friendship before going to the next level. I know this, for I met a God fearing lady about a year and a half ago. And when I came to the Philippines and met her in person, everything she told me in our communications was true. On the other hand, I had met a few ladies before her. And, after a while of corresponding, I knew something was not right, for their e-mails began to contradict what they presented of themselves from the beginning. Yes it is sad when one is manipulated and scammed, but if you are willing to be patient, you will see and know the true colors of the one you have met.

    Comment by Robby — December 21, 2011 @ 5:18 am

  39. Thanks for your VERY helpful advice about not falling in love on-line, but keeping it at the friendship level until meeting a person. Very good advice. Thanks!

    Comment by David — January 2, 2012 @ 12:56 am

  40. Really appreciate your advice about NOT falling on love on-line but to develop friendships first, then to meet. This was helpful to me.

    Comment by David — January 13, 2012 @ 1:33 am

  41. Ive been with other dating services & this is the best one yet at the fairest price,Also my Christian brothers & sisters,we have to trust people,but with wisdom,because the LORD could have sent them your way,let him guide your heart.Also Philipino women are the best,and in order to recieve the best,one has to first become the best themselves..,So becareful of your friends,if they put down others,because of their own bad experiances with people..,yes we will run into wolves in sheep clothing,But with the LORD as our guide,we will know his voice from the real enamy,ask Him for Wisdom & be free!!!

    Comment by Rich Sears — January 24, 2012 @ 9:49 pm

  42. I love this dating service & will upgrade in about 10 hours from now,so i can find my Beautiful philipino friends that are to be considered for a merriage Partner,in the future,i easely fall in love,and am glad this site warns against doing so/Praise GOD!!!

    Comment by Rich Sears — January 24, 2012 @ 9:58 pm

  43. Remember,Wisdom should be your sister & your Kinswomen,Seek Her & Live!!!

    Comment by Rich Sears — January 24, 2012 @ 10:04 pm

  44. Hi Mr. Sears, We’re happy to have you as a member and are sure that you will meet some wonderful people. Every day we get testimonials from members who meet on our site. Just now we received this one from a 34-year-old Filipina from Davao:

    I already meet my special someone here. I am so thankful in this site. Thank you so much. God is good all the time.


    Comment by Christian Filipina — January 24, 2012 @ 10:05 pm

  45. Hi Jen,Thanks for your responce back,im glad to be a part of a lovely dating Company,who cares.

    Comment by Rich Sears — January 25, 2012 @ 9:06 am

  46. Hi :) , just became member this week :) . so glad to find this christian dating site.. Thank God this one cares too.. Before I was going online chatting in Yahoo Messenger.. so sad because most of the people there have warped ideas of relationships between man and woman.. i find it so hard to get angry even when men there want to take advantage of me.. or talk dirty.. i feel sad for them.. they dont have the love of God in their hearts.. that’s why they live unsatisfied and complicated lives.. :( God bless this site and God bless us all in finding the right partner guided by His wisdom in our journey called life :) Cheers!

    Comment by Joannes — January 27, 2012 @ 6:15 pm

  47. MABUHAY!!! CF Site… U give us light and inspiration to make our dream come true. Thank you and More Power. God Bless All…..

    Comment by Judith — June 16, 2012 @ 12:22 pm

  48. I have found this very enlightening… very true because basically these are things that you don’t want others do unto you in an online dating site… wasting your time & money & giving you falsehope by pretending & lying to you.

    Comment by Anonymous — November 22, 2012 @ 5:08 pm

  49. Trust and respect…words never given, they’re earned!

    This is no issue of distance…people oceans away find their way to meet, right? Difference in culture will never be an issue if one understands the other…religion is not hindrance either…but somehow a personal conviction is very important…one must ask himself of the essence why he resorted to finding his love through this site when in fact he has heard so many things about Filipinos…good or bad, this surely affects his judgments. Of course, this act may be a gamble to him. But I believe that christian Filipinas (well, I hope all)will show self-respect by not demanding anything from them. In return, men should not also lure women with their money…genuine and honest intentions really matter most. Other might not agree with me but at times others are fooled because they failed to weigh decisions they are making…

    Hmmm…in this world, you see different people, surely there are deceits and gullible…so never trust anyone that easy!

    Comment by Jessica — December 27, 2012 @ 11:21 pm

  50. i’ve been a member of this site for a couple of days now and i find these site really nice, thanks to crhistian-filipina

    I want to find someone who will be nice and will be a good friend to me at first and maybe for more longer and developed relationship. i’m tired of meeting guys who are nice at 1st and will ask you to do some nasty and crazy things over the net and on cam, i don’t like such acts, so better chat and make friends and try to know if the person is sincere to you and is very respectful or not before you trust him. And mostly, always ask God on everything before making a step forward for your life, in this way you are walking in the right way with God.

    Comment by Gelay — December 31, 2012 @ 1:48 am

  51. I am afraid I have violated a suggestion already by allowing a woman on this site to encourage romance and marriage. I am to meet her for the first time in the PI within three weeks. We have chatted for about three months. She has been my exclusive because I believe in being a one woman man. Friends are good but this site is a match factory—let’s face it. Most of us are here to meet our future spouse. However thank you for the cautions about payments to third parties. If she is real this will be the best thing that could happen to me now. The time I have chatted with her has allowed me to test her honesty about certain claims she has made. So far one suspicious response has led me to ask whether she is a liar, I am balking at commitment, or I am judging unfairly. I do know that even if I am being played God is still God and He will ultimately receive the glory for His faithfulness in my life. If this lady is real she is likely wondering about me at times also. I think we all raise red flags for any trusting person who has been burned before. The scam amounts I have seen so far are nothing compared to what my American ex-wife and her attorney have legally taken out of my hide so far. Paying support for four years to an employed woman with whom I had no children is a greater scam than anything I have seen on these blogs. That is not counting the assets I was ordered to turn over to her. Want to experience a real scam? Go through the American legal system.

    Comment by Jerry — January 1, 2013 @ 1:12 am

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