Tomi

(working in Saudi-Arabia for a while)

(Unfortunately not able to answer messages now because I put my membership on break)



I have been struggling to find a way to tell what kind of a man I am so I decided to tell an example:

I have 5 daughters. When I met their mother she already had 6 year old twins. After that we made together next two girls and our fifth girl, evening star arrived later but I was not her biological father. It wasn´t easy decision to me but I chose to raise her as my own like I raised also twins, my twins.

i was given a chance to walk away many times but I stayed near my children. My relationship with their mother was on/off after first 2-3 years, sometimes I was living at same house, sometimes I had to rent my own place as close as possible so I could be part of their life.



So I am not the guy who goes to church every Sunday but trying to show my values by actions. On the other hand I have lot of things which I could do better and I have done things which I am not proud of but all that has made me what I am today. I appreciate honesty, respect in both ways, open-mindedness, ability to speak straight when needed and not looking for short tempered drama queen, lesson about that learned :)

What else... I am patient, hard working, like good and also bad humor :) and enjoy silence when my introvert side needs to charge battery.

I don't have a problem with alcohol and I am not violent.



So... girls are all grown up now and I have recoveredr from last 20 years. Even I have no problem to spend time alone I have been getting strange thoughts during last year especially when I am relaxing in sauna... glimpse to empty space next to me and thinking it would be nice have a chance to share this moment, thoughts, feelings with someone special... really strange thoughts ;)



I found this site, joined and opening myself to new possibilities. Therefore I am starting slowly because of 2 things: firstly I am soon going to 4 months business trip to Saudi-Arabia and putting all my stuff into storage. Secondly I have to give myself time to think about some questions beforehand like age, willing to relocate, education, cultural differencies and most of all do I want more children and/or do I want to raise more children as my own. Big questions which I have to think carefully because if and when Love happens... all plans usually are gone :)



That was short introduction and now I would like to hear your story, your dreams, your regrets, your... everything :)